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Miserable DH doesn’t want to go on holiday with us

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16more · 01/10/2019 08:38

Ds and Dd will be 9 and 22 months. Should we go on our own? It would only be to Spain so not worried about the length of the flight but how would I manage at the airport etc with bag check in? Has anyone done it before and had a lovely time?

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Adversecamber22 · 01/10/2019 08:40

Of course you can manage but why is he miserable.

SnuggyBuggy · 01/10/2019 08:40

We used to go on holiday without DDad because he was such a miserable sod on holiday. Is there another family member who might be up for going with you?

BillieeNoMates · 01/10/2019 08:42

Why do you want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to spend quality family time with you and your children?

Nobhobs · 01/10/2019 08:43

Same as Snuggy! Every single family holiday growing up dad stayed home because he was just a miserable bastard. I remember one year after relentless nagging he came with us and it was the worst holiday ever as he was so bloody miserable. You're better off leaving him at home! My DM agrees! Although she said she wishes she'd just left him in general

SnuggyBuggy · 01/10/2019 08:45

My DDad even insisted he and DM travelled home 100 miles after a concert at 2 am so he didn't have to stay in a hotel room

Some people are just like that. Nothing wrong with doing some things separately if you need to.

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16more · 01/10/2019 08:47

@billieenomates at what point did I say that about him? He doesn’t do well in the heat and will moan all week. He’ll have even less patience and I can’t be doing yet another great British weather holiday, thanks. Not really @SnuggyBuggy not really unfortunately

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ILiveInSalemsLot · 01/10/2019 08:47

Yes go. Your 9 yr old is at an age where they can be quite helpful.
Go and enjoy your life with your lovely dcs. Don’t let your dh bring you down.

averythinline · 01/10/2019 08:48

It will be fine to go yourself .. just dont take too much luggage and give yourself lots of time ....and pay for help if needed if you can....
so if you are driving /parking at airport -pay a bit more and park closer ....or get a taxi to drop off and pick up as can get in closer

1x4 wheel suitcase should be plenty - the 9yr old maybe able to help push it - then check-in and its gone...

although its a shame your dh is a miserable sod...much better to enjoy holidays than not !

at the airport you will probably be able to take the pushchair to teh plane - teh 9yr old coudl have a dayback backpac with all your sacks/entertainment for flight and push a 4 wheel suitcase

Sirzy · 01/10/2019 08:51

So he does do holidays just not the type you want!

Booboostwo · 01/10/2019 08:56

Of course you'll be fine. The 9yo will actually be able to help.

I've gone on holidays on my own with a 3yo and a 6yo and then the year after with the then 7yo in a wheelchair. It was fine.

mummmy2017 · 01/10/2019 08:59

Do you have family you could go with?
It is just incase your ill on holiday.

LIZS · 01/10/2019 09:01

So don't go when it is hot! With young children you have flexibiity to go in say April/May or September/October. Or pick somewhere less intense with beaches like France (Brittany, At
Atlantic Coast) or Channel Islands. Travelling with 2 under 2 alone means one would need a booked seat.

mummmy2017 · 01/10/2019 09:07

Cruise ships have free stuff
Food, day care, times you can do stuff for you .
Free entertainment, shows ect .
Do not underestimate the fact you do no cooking.

KUGA · 01/10/2019 09:07

Have a great time.
And to be honest I am with dh I hate the heat even in this country.

Wintersnowdrop · 01/10/2019 09:09

Is your son 9 months or 9 years?! Tbh I wouldn’t travel on my own whilst one or both are young children. We went abroad for the first time when mine were four and six.

user1494670108 · 01/10/2019 09:13

If it's 9yr old and 22month old then definitely do,
Just ensure that your 9 year old has suitable luggage (hand luggage and suitcase) that they can manage themselves.
If it's 9m and 22m which is how I first read it then I wouldn't!

yulet · 01/10/2019 09:18

What does he think about it?

If he'd like a family holiday but he can't cope with heat then that isn't on at all.

If he couldn't care less and would like a week off alone while you go do the childcare, then go for it!

Waxonwaxoff0 · 01/10/2019 09:22

I'm a single mum and have been taking DS abroad alone since he was 2. We have a wonderful time. Do it!

museumum · 01/10/2019 09:26

I read it as a 9mo and 22mo and thought you’d be brave.
With a 9yr old yes. But personally I’d rather find a compromise dh and I would both enjoy (eg if you like heat then at least somewhere with aircon and cooler nights).

Myriade · 01/10/2019 09:39

Ive travelled with two dcs that age (as in 9 months and 22 months). It has never been an issue.

9 months old in a sling, 22 months old walking/pram. one suitcase only and a backpack for nappies/snacks, toys etc...

You do need to strimline what you are taking with you to avoid too many bags etc...

If its 9yo and 22 months, it's easy.

Myriade · 01/10/2019 09:42

One point though, if the dcs are indeed 9months old and 22 months, Im not sure the OP could fly as both of them are supposed to be on an adult knees for take off and landing (even if the 22 months old has a seat, which I have done before travelling with two young dcs)

Flippetydip · 01/10/2019 09:42

Don't fly is the simple answer. Think of the environment and go somewhere that you can reach by train or even car. Perhaps if you went some where in this country your DH would go with you? Or is he just generally miserable? In which case, still go somewhere were you don't need to fly - trains are SO much more fun with children than planes.

Eurostar goes right to the South of France if you don't fancy the UK.

Myriade · 01/10/2019 09:43

But the bottom line is that you will be used to deal with both of them together on a daily basis, on your own.
Being at home or abroad isnt going to mke a huge diffrence in that respect.

Myriade · 01/10/2019 09:45

Perhaps if you went some where in this country your DH would go with you?

The OP specifically said she doesnt want another british holiday but some sunshine.

Troels · 01/10/2019 09:45

My Dh has rarely been away with us. He also hates sleeping in hotels. So I always took the kids without him and had a great time.
While we were gone he used to do jobs at home in his own time, I came home one year to the whole house painted. He's also put in new fencing, painted the fences, planted trees. You name it he had a good time alone doing jobs.

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