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Feel a bit lonely

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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 30/09/2019 19:38

Just wondering if anyone is about. I've moved jobs and area, live with my new partner. I'm finding the job stressful and I don't really have any friends here yet. I've been feeling tense and anxious and a bit lonely Sad. Thought a chat on here might help.

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fromthefloorboardsup · 30/09/2019 19:40

Hey,

I know this feeling well. I moved areas recently and making friends is hard! You'll get there though. I've had a pretty bad time of it recently but I'm trying to see the positives.

What would you like to chat about?

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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 30/09/2019 19:44

Hey thanks for replying. How's your day been? I don't think it helps that I'm rubbish at making friends. I feel like I hate my job but it's probably because it's new.

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wouldyouadamandeveit · 30/09/2019 19:51

This was me 15 years ago! I almost felt like I'd lost my identity. I had two children as well, so getting to know parents at established schools was tough. It does get easier. All I can say is keep being you and just go with the flow Thanks

TapDanceJazzHands · 30/09/2019 19:59

Oh it's so hard making new friends, for an extrovert I find myself feeling ridiculously shy when I want to meet new people.

With a new job it's always tough but you're bound to settle in. I bet in a few weeks you'll be feeling way more confident.

Do you have children? Do you think you can befriend some mum friends?

Or are you religious? I've always managed to make friends quickly at church because people are generally much more inclusive and friendly.

Is your partner a good support?

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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 30/09/2019 20:13

I'm not religious but I've joined a book group. I have 3 DC but I don't get to pick my ds up as I'm a teacher and my dds are at secondary. I help with the PTA when I can. My partner is a good support, but we've been arguing a bit lately, I think we've had a lot on and not much time to ourselves.

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redastherose · 30/09/2019 20:17

Sorry you're feeling lonely. It will get better, however it does take time. I've moved areas twice with a family and it generally takes a few months to meet enough people to feel settled. Unfortunately your job probably won't help as much as being in an office scenario but hopefully it will improve shortly. Xx

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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 30/09/2019 20:44

I've been here since April but still feel like it's not home. I lived in my last area most of my life though.

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