How soon after moving house would you have visitors to stay?

[EmmaStone]

Just interested really. We're moving house soon, and ILs have suggested coming to stay with us 2 weeks after moving. They are of course absolutely welcome, but I can't help feeling slightly concerned that we'll still be upside down, and not really in a great place to host (they definitely need hosting, they won't pitch in). I don't know if I'm just being a bit mean, or if they're being a bit unrealistic as to how organised we'll be.

My parents have offered to stay with us the weekend of the move, but purely in the capacity of helpers - they can't wait to see the house too, but will wait until we suggest it (we'll likely have them stay at the end of the weekend after moving, when we'll have done some of it, but could probably do with some help with the kids and a few more boxes of less essential stuff).

So am I just being mean, is it perfectly reasonable to expect to stay with family 2 weeks after a move?

I wouldn’t have an issue with it at all but we were pretty much sorted after the first day...I unpacked (& my in-laws helped too, dh couldn’t get out of work) as the movers moved stuff in and wouldn’t have wanted to be left with boxes everywhere after the first day or so anyway.

If you don’t think you’ll be ready I’m sure you could ask them to delay a week or 2 but I bet they’re just as keen to see it as your parents. What does your dh say?

I think if the house is in a fit state for your parents to stay, you cant really refure the inlaws - tho I totally understand the difference between visitors who help and visitors who hinder.
To put it into context: I moved 3000 miles with 3 kids and 6 suitcases. We had visitors 2 weeks later - on the understanding they brought their own bedding (we had beds).

I find with people like this, if you give them a task they generally do it. So yes I would have them to stay but would give them a room to sort/putting pictures up that sort of thing.

My dad came and helped us move, he stayed in the new house before we even did and him and my partner did 90% of the moving whilst I took care of our 8 month old. We finished the move in 2 days!

My in-laws helped us move and as they live 3 hours away, they stayed the day we moved. They helped massively with putting up curtain rails and unpacking kitchen.
If visitors don't mind a bit of chaos, then invite them

It depends if you want them or not.

I'd prefer to wait until stuff was where it should be and unpacked etc. But I wouldn't be too precious about it. People, espwcially family, want to see your new home.

I wouldn't have visitors to stay , ever. I often read about having visitors stay on here & think "why?" I can't think of anything worse.

Two weeks is plenty of time to get most of the unpacking done, I really don't think you can use that as an excuse especially if your parents have already stayed.

Ah ok, I'm catastrophising, hopefully we'll be pretty well settled and ready for them then. I'm just winding myself up, as I know there will be a couple of backhanded compliments, and I'm pre-empting them.

Villanellebelle, both sets of parents live a fair distance, so they need to stay if visiting really. I don't generally mind visitors (if they don't stay too long ), but IL visits do tend to be the most fractious unfortunately, depsite them being lovely kind people, we just seem to rub each other up the wrong way (and DH reverts to sulky teenager when with them).