I need a handhold

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Wrote a thread yesterday about my DH accusing me of lying. I have basically proved I was not or offered to prove it.

Anyway this morning he turns to me and says it not that any more but I have done something wrong. He won’t tell me what and if I can’t figure it out it proves how selfish I am and how self absorbed I am. He also says what I have done is the straw that breaks the camels back for our marriage.

I begged him to tell me for about ten minutes till I came to my senses. He would not. All he says is it’s to do with our son.
It’s over isn’t it- I can’t play these games anymore

leave him please . he is messing with your head

He's a gaslighting bastard 'guess what you've done wrong and if you can't it's your fault'. Leave him & tell him the only thing you've done wrong is staying with an abusive arsehole for so long.

I imagine he has done something wrong and wants to blame you for the end of your marriage rather than take responsibility for it himself. Best revenge is picking up and moving on to a better life without him, best thing for you too, you don’t need that type of love.

This is mental and emotional abuse. Get rid of him.

Cut him loose. What a nasty abusive life-ruining prick he is.

Yes, it is
I'm sorry you have been treated so badly

Sorry to be harsh but it was all said on your other thread.

Go back and have a good read, there was lots of very wise and practical advice.

An adult would say what has upset or annoyed them.

Please show him this thread.

He is immature, ignorant and nasty and I can only think by not expressively telling you what it is that has bothered him that he is of very low intelligence and unable to articulate clearly.

Leave him as he is clearly emotionally retarded.

Leave him OP, he’s gaslighting and nasty!

I just read your other post leave him.

Just leave him. Why are you still there?

I think a far more important question you should sit yourself down to some honest thought about is why you have chosen thus far to stay. What is it that's keeping you there? The kids? Concerns about how you'll make do as a single parent? Whatever it is, address it. Immediately. Make a plan for moving forward without him and follow through on it. I doubt he's honestly looking to end the relationship right this second. Most men that are done, leave. He's there for his own reasons apart from you too. I suspect power and control and an inflated sense of self in your distress at the thought of his absence. They don't want to be bothered with a woman they truly want nothing more to do with. What he's doing is manipulative and abusive and if you have children, as I assume you do, they are witnessing it. Even small kids pick up on it and it's detrimental to their well being. It damages the security they feel in their sense of attachments and sets them up for problems down the road. I know it's terrifying to suddenly find yourself a single parent. My husband died unexpectedly and my son had just turned 2. It was awful. No two ways about it. But I had to put my big girl panties on and press through anyway. That was last year and this year is much better. Not great but better. You will be ok on your own if you choose to be. Not having the option to hide under the covers and wallow in misery is probably the only thing that got me through it. You'll get through too.