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Woman tried to have a go at me

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Jayaywhynot · 27/09/2019 20:00

I'm in the supermarket and apparently I'm in the way of a woman behind me, I didn't know she was there and I'd stopped due to another shopper with a trolley going past. Woman behind me gets verbally aggressive, I turn and say I can't move, she calls me a liar. At this point I'm not having this, so I gave her a bollocking, she looked completely surprised, tried half heartedly to continue to be abusive, pathetic really as she clearly wasn't getting the reaction she was expecting, I think she was expecting me to back down due to her aggression but unfortunately she started on the wrong woman, it (me) got very loud and she tried to scuttle off as I continued to call her out on her bullshit. Now I'm home I'm embarrassed. I would never usually be rude to anyone and certainly would never start an argument but this woman was so aggressive and rude that I absolutely saw red. Just need to get it off my chest really

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Cuppa12345 · 27/09/2019 20:02

I'm you. I am often embarrassed but I can't bear bullies and will give anyone trying to bully people a piece of my mind. When I haven't and ignored them, I've been so annoyed at myself for not standing up to them I'd rather be embarrassed by giving them a taste of their own medicine. Probably not very 'nice' though.

sonjadog · 27/09/2019 20:10

I sometimes react like that if rude people catch me in the wrong mood. I think it is fine. Why should people put up with other people´s shit all the time?

Knowivedonewrong · 27/09/2019 20:15

Good for you! Don't feel bad. I would've done the same as you. I don't take shit from no one.

cubed123 · 27/09/2019 20:21

Don’t feel bad about it, especially as she started it. There’s no need to bully people in supermarkets so hopefully that’ll teach her a lesson not to do it again.

Sometimes we lose our temper, at least you have the wherewithal to think about it afterwards and ask yourself questions, some people don’t have the capacity to do that.

ValleyClouds · 27/09/2019 20:23

I wish I was more assertive in these situations

I have a disability and quite frequently find myself on the receiving end of unwanted comments

I just silently swear at them

Some woman very patronisingly instructed me to "cross the road now dear" and I waited til I knew she was out of earshot before calling her names

BatshitBertha · 27/09/2019 20:28

Part if me thinks 'good for you' and then part of me thinks 'life's too short to be shouting at strangers in the supermarket'

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Jayaywhynot · 27/09/2019 20:52

Thanks everyone for the support. Iv been playing it over in my head. I should have mentioned that my mum was with me, shes in her 80's, I'm in my 50's. (I should be old enough to know better) my mum looked shocked at the woman's aggression but afterwards she had a giggle and said "you certainly told her , she wasn't expecting you to say anything back ". Thinking back on it I wonder if that's the usual way she conducts herself and people back down to her. I cant abide bullies and I definitely wont be bullied

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Katex888 · 27/09/2019 21:02

Well done to you, good for shutting her up and you shouldn’t feel embarrassed. I’d have the done the same, barked at her until she walked awat.

TigerDroveAgain · 27/09/2019 21:03

Frankly the whole situation sounds ghastly and you should forget about it. You were both embarrassing

Cherrysoup · 27/09/2019 21:25

Good on you! Hopefully she’ll stop being unnecessarily aggressive with others in future.

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Jayaywhynot · 27/09/2019 21:44

Phew, thanks, I thought I was going to get a roasting from mn!
@TigerDroveAgain yep it was "ghastly " love that word, going to have it as word of the day for tomorrow but you are absolutely correct, we were both embarrassing, hopefully she will think twice about doing it to someone else in future

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Quirrelsotherface · 27/09/2019 21:59

Totally did the right thing. I -my raging post partum hormones- shouted at a woman in Card Factory when my DS was a couple of weeks old. I was really gently trying to manoeuvre DS's pram through the store. It absolutely did not touch her but she was tutting at me and muttering to someone else in the queue about what a pain I was coming into the shop with my pram. I shouted at the top of my voice 'I did not touch you with my pram! How rude!!'. She didn't say a word, looked shocked and then a few people offered approving words to me. People like her think they can say whatever they want and are utterly cowed if anyone dares to reply. Typical bullies. Go you, OP.

HopeClearwater · 27/09/2019 23:17

I do this. I don’t see why people should be obnoxious but not expect a robust reply. I never swear. I just point out how rude/wrong they are. If you do it articulately then often people around you make little approving noises

TheBouquets · 28/09/2019 00:16

I often think that my old fashionedly polite upbringing needs to be changed. Too many people are bad mannered and take advantage
of polite quiet people.
OP you have my absolute admiration for putting that cheeky woman
in her place.

BackforGood · 28/09/2019 00:46

You can challenge someone / be assertive / stand up for yourself without resorting to all this though ....so I gave her a bollocking, she looked completely surprised, tried half heartedly to continue to be abusive, pathetic really as she clearly wasn't getting the reaction she was expecting, I think she was expecting me to back down due to her aggression but unfortunately she started on the wrong woman, it (me) got very loud and she tried to scuttle off as I continued to call her out on her bullshit.

You just lowered yourself to her level. Nothing to be proud of at all.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 28/09/2019 01:09

Well hopefully that’s taught her a lesson.
I bet she’s been going round bullying vulnerable people all her adult life.
Looks like she finally picked on the wrong one.

DontCallMeShitley · 28/09/2019 17:37

You are not alone.
I was in a shop where customers were pushing buggies at me and there was nowhere to move to, not one of them attempted to compromise and expected me to move over. I was pretty much in the display shelves every few minutes trying to let them pass.

Then a woman came along with 2 children, taking up the entire aisle, she was on her phone, briefly looked up and waited for me to move. I was looking stuff on the shelves so not going to move away, and so sick of being the one to move I just tutted. This elicited a comment about no need to tut, it was just the final straw. She beat a hasty retreat when I replied, at volume.

Oddly I didn't have a problem getting round the shop after that.

DontCallMeShitley · 28/09/2019 17:37

at stuff

DontCallMeShitley · 28/09/2019 17:39

I don't normally shout at members of the public but the selfishness and rudeness finally got to me on a bad day.

WorraLiberty · 28/09/2019 17:40

I'd be embarrassed too.

All you had to do was point to the person blocking your way.

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Jayaywhynot · 02/10/2019 21:16

@BackforGood
I dont recall saying i was proud of myself, I actually said I was embarrassed. You went to a lot of trouble to copy my text, you wasnt in the supermarket on friday afternoon were you?

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BackforGood · 03/10/2019 00:05

It really isn't a lot of trouble to copy text and paste.

Nah - I don't do my shop on a Friday

WatchingTheMoon · 03/10/2019 00:09

Sometimes I feel like life's too short, sometimes I feel like why put up with people being like that.

I have more sympathy for other women, but men's shit I will absolutely not put up with especially when they demand my attention in a bar or whatever. I can't believe how many women will stand talking to a guy they want to get away from but are too polite to say anything. Fuck that for a laugh.

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