How do you decide to buy a house?

[mrsdquaver]

Did you ever buy a house not loving it totally but knowing it was right and practical and then fall in love after?

The house in question has so much going for it but obviously it isn't our much loved smaller family home so I'm finding it hard to commit to it!

My fiancé viewed it and put an offer in on it before I'd even seen it. Hadn't seen any photos or particulars/details. Didn't even know which town it was in (could have been a 5 mile radius from his work).

He's now my ExH. Should have seen that as a massive 🚩 🚩 🚩

I didn’t love our house at first. We looked at four (we had to move 100’s of miles very quickly due to DH job) over a weekend. First two were too small and this one was third. It was nice and DH loved it but from the particulars the last one had my heart. When I saw it however I just didn’t feel comfortable. Can’t even say why - maybe I built it up to be something special and it was just a house? Number 3 was in a good location for shops, church and DS school so we went for it. We have been here 3 years now. We have redecorated a couple of rooms and I love it now. It is very different to how it looked when the previous people were here - once we got all our stuff in it become our home.

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Unless funds are unlimited, it oft n comes down to affordability and ticking most of the boxes. Unless you're very lucky there will oft n be a box or too not,perfect. But unless it's something you can do nothing about - location, a north facing garden or a pub right next door - many boxes can be fixed.

I do think atmosphere is important. Both my dds' houses were doer-uppers - one was a probate and terribly dated, but both had that lovelynwarm amosphere that said they'd been happy family homes.

Dh and I once viewed a house that was my dream - on paper. But it had a cold and unfriendly - almost sinister - atmosphere. I couldn't wait to get out of it.