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Anyone around? Really need an unmumsnetty hug

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colouringinpro · 26/09/2019 00:14

probably totally predictable to my friends. And sounds like a total cliche. But I've had a totally Shit 7 years. And I met someone wonderful who, I do believe really liked me too.

But he's married. Just found out. And I'm not good

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SunshineAngel · 26/09/2019 00:15

Hugs.

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Some men are just absolute shitbags. But please don't think this is it. You have a fantastic life ahead of you, with a decent guy.

Take your time, look after yourself, spend time with friends.

I hope you feel better soon x

MadCap · 26/09/2019 00:17

I'm so sorry. Hugs for you. What a shitty thing.

I'm putting down a much loved family pet this week so could use the hugs too.

Onceuponatimethen · 26/09/2019 00:17

Sending a huge hug

Onceuponatimethen · 26/09/2019 00:17

There will be other men and you can do this even if it feels incredibly hard right now

DramaAlpaca · 26/09/2019 00:18

Oh no, hope you are OK

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colouringinpro · 26/09/2019 00:19

shit as BP exh suicide nearly died, psychotic crisis nearly me died, dd asd, ds FND ptsd, single parent ptsd too imo

really don't want to be alone. But it' takes me time to make friends and that doesn't fit with the world of OLD.

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Whoops75 · 26/09/2019 00:19

He’s an asshole

Keep looking x

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colouringinpro · 26/09/2019 00:20

Thank you 😰😰😰

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KellyHall · 26/09/2019 00:20

Flowers Massive hugs op.

Can you book yourself something to cheer you up? Massage? Nails? Anything to pamper the one person who really matters - you!

What are the actual circumstances? Is he committed to staying with his wife? They're (he) is obviously not happy at home or he wouldn't be looking elsewhere...

MustardScreams · 26/09/2019 00:21

God you deserve so much more than this.

But in the meantime while it’s raw and hideous, you don’t need lectures or advice, you need hugs and listening ears. I’m so sorry op. It’s fucking shit Wine

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colouringinpro · 26/09/2019 00:22

(((madcap)))

He was a friend of friend. I wasn't looking. I'm too freaked out by looking

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colouringinpro · 26/09/2019 00:23

apparently they've been living separate lives in the same house for years. I think he's a coward.

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Mummaofmytribe · 26/09/2019 00:24
Flowers
chipsandgin · 26/09/2019 00:25

What a twat he is. You’ll make it through this & appreciate the next chapter even more - just take time to let yourself heal through to the end of this one & be kind to yourself Flowers

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colouringinpro · 26/09/2019 00:25

mustard Yes it is. And this week I've also had my darling son loose the use of his right (handed) hand and my ASD dd sobbing the last two mornings before school.

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colouringinpro · 26/09/2019 00:26

chips this is a very long nightmare chapter that involves lots of nightmares.

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colouringinpro · 26/09/2019 00:29

And I was just beginning to believe there might be a happy ending for me

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colouringinpro · 26/09/2019 00:30

thanks sunshine

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Whoops75 · 26/09/2019 00:31

Nobody can give you a happy ending.

You are doing your best OP
That is enough x

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colouringinpro · 26/09/2019 00:36

thanks whoops I know what u mean I think, but f**k I could use a happy ending

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colouringinpro · 26/09/2019 00:38

onceuponatime thank you

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chipsandgin · 26/09/2019 00:38

So sorry to hear that, some chapters should definitely be skipped - wish I could do that for you..hope you can see the light at the end of the tunnel
soon & your children are ok (can you
escape anywhere with them right now, friends/family - what’s happening with your DS totally justifies whatever you want to do).

Hope the nightmares are done now & things work out - whatever happens you are better off without a lying, cheating scumbag - it has to be a positive thing (optimism I know - but silver linings maybe?..)

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colouringinpro · 26/09/2019 00:41

It's such a f**king cliche

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colouringinpro · 26/09/2019 00:42

God chips I hope you're right.

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custardbear · 26/09/2019 00:49

@colouringinpro - that's rubbish 🥺 sending hugs. You'll get your happy life, you can't see it just now, but you will - take care ThanksGin

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