I'm expecting and have chosen to exclude the father l in order to protect myself and my unborn child, I don't see that the father has or would have any interest in knowing their child. Things were always volatile between us, for many reasons including that he has a very abusive side, he has even accused me of lying about a pregnancy before that he was very much aware of after I had a loss some years ago. Because of this part in particular I felt I couldnt face letting him know the baby is his and felt the added stress wouldn't be the best thing for me especially as my unplanned pregnancy has been a very difficult thing to deal with as is. To my knowledge he has figured out the connection but hasn't made an attempt to contact me himself... he has a gf so not entirely surprising. What do I do here? Am I really that wrong to exclude him to avoid the agro? How do I amicably explain my side of it to him if/when it comes to it?