Teenagers online - what do you tell them when they think they know it all?

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Dd has just stropped off bc I reminded her not to trust people online

She says shes fed up with being told she’s a target (think she means school, not me ) and that she can tell if someone isn't who they say they are as Snapchat tells you if a pic is from the internet, hmm

She’s 15. I am concerned that the reason for defensiveness is bc she is talking to someone she doesn’t know, in fact she admits she is but is sure they are indeed teenagers. Wtf do you do to keep them safe?

it's quite easy to fake a snap chat 'live' photo.

here is how it's done

Quite! I will show her that tomorrow when she’s calmed down

what do you tell them when they think they know it all?

I have no idea but please share when you find out 😂😂

My 19yo still strops off when I try and give her guidance, so I feel your pain.

21yo DS was a lovely teenager but seems to have decided (after 2yrs at uni and a placement job) that how he does things is the best way and it feels that he thinks we are 50-something idiots!

What till she’s driving - they are experts the day after passing cw parents who have driven 35+ years.

I remember just what a revolting know it all I was as a teenager, and do what my parents did. Smile and nod. Anything else, and it all goes pair shaped.

I try to have those conversations where they really need to hear what I'm saying, because it's to ensure they have the tools to keep themselves safe, for when they're in a receptive frame of mind (say, they want money, so they're prepared to put up with some civil interaction, lol). . .

I would watch one of those programmes with her where a young girl is contacted online by an adult posing as a child and is killed.
It's harsh but I don't see any other way of really hammering it home that even the most sensible of people can be fooled into trusting someone in the right circumstances.

Perhaps you could show her this.

www.itv.com/news/2017-01-04/kayleighs-love-story-police-release-harrowing-video-on-dangers-of-online-grooming/

Thank you. I think she’s been shown that film at school.

When my daughter was 13 she thought she knew everything! She had a Facebook account and I went through with her how people could set up fake profiles etc and the danger of sending private messages and photos. As once sent they cannot be unsent. I also suggested she only accept friend requests from people she actually knows.

The agreement was that I had the password so I could check whenever I wanted. This was met with much eye rolling!

Naturally she changed the password so I decided to trick her. I set up a fake profile in the name of Mark Skid and used this photo in the profile.

She accepted my friend request and I then made some silly posts to embarrass her. Her friends thought it was funny and she has to admit she thought Mark was a real profile! 😂

She then gave me the password as we are fortunate that we both share the same sense of humour.

I later found a chap based in India asking her for nude photos which I swiftly knocked on the head.

It’s become a long standing joke now about Mark and his poor cat!