(I write this in hope that it will make sense, my emotions are sky high at the moment, so if you feel that I have left parts out, please don’t hesitate to ask)
I have recently split with my husband of two years, although we have been together for 8 years, we have two children together ages 6&4.
He was unfaithful to me before we got married but he owned up to it, because apparently he felt guilty, and I did the wrong thing and forgave him when I knew that I would always have thoughts that it is happening again.
I suffer from Anxiety and OCD, I am in therapy and I am making progress, I do worry about anything and everything the smallest things... and my OCD does sometimes become very overwhelming.
However I am always being praised when it comes to my parenting, so I must be doing something right.
I ended things with him, the slight disagreement me and him would have, he would disappear and it happened again and again, and over the years he has become very sneaky and untrustworthy, which he would blame on my mental health.
How much more did he expect me to take??
He has given me two options :-
I buy him out, and give him full custody of our 6-year-old
He comes back here and lives with us.
Everything we own is 50/50, as I wrote above, he has said he wants full custody of our 6-year-old son, and has said that I can keep our 4-year- old because apparently, he doesn’t think I am stable enough to look after him anymore.
We haven’t been together for almost two months now, and there has been a dramatic change in our 6-year olds behaviour towards me, it is almost as if he is a different child which is breaking my heart.
I know for a fact that my ex-husband is trying his best to turn him against me and he is succeeding, I do not know why he is doing this to me, I am not a bad person. I would never ever make him or anyone else feel the way he is making me feel.
I am aware that this is making our son very unhappy, every time I look at him I can see the sadness in his eyes, luckily our 4-year-old seems to be unaware of what is happening.
I just want this heart ache and pain to stop.