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Would it bother you

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Rose220 · 22/09/2019 22:00

If you only had a handful of photos of you with ur children in there first year prohaps 1 photo a month from the day they were born would it bother you. Is time spent with your children more important or capturing it in a photo. I believe time spent is so important I was lucky enough not to miss any milestones with my children but what I had in time I lack in photos and videos. I oftdn look back and wish I was in more photos with them and on my own.

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Soola · 22/09/2019 22:03

I think I’m only in one or two photos with my children. I’m not bothered at all.

Walnutwhipster · 22/09/2019 22:15

Once a month is a lot of photos. I became a mum for the first time in the pre-digital age and they were expensive. No one I know back then would have had a photo a month with their child.

LookImAHooman · 22/09/2019 22:15

Soola is not of my generation so we do not speak with that same context.

My DC are still young and I regularly have to remind my DH I’d like to be in more photos with the DC that aren’t selfies. Many of my friends say exactly the same. We notice it because of the sheer number of photos relatively that we take these days of everything, so it’s perfectly valid.

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Tweetingmagpie · 22/09/2019 22:17

Not really but I wish I had more photos of me with my kids, there’s hardly any because I hate having my photo taken!

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Rose220 · 22/09/2019 22:20

I'm in two straight after my children's birth then about one a month if I'm lucky. I'm not one for taking selfies as they always look funny but going back 4 years ago the selfies I took on my phone were really bad quality. And my husband never ever thinks to take photos. I feel sad my children are growing up.

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WhyBirdStop · 23/09/2019 00:12

I take lots of photos of DS, I'm not in many at all, I'm ok with that. I want to remember how he looked not how tired I am!

Soola · 23/09/2019 02:04

@LookImAHooman yes, I should have said my age. 53 and adult children.

I should also have said that I don’t have photos on display, I’m just not interested. I do have photo albums of the children which have been passed to my daughter who expressed an interest in them to show her partner.

1forAll74 · 23/09/2019 02:56

I have loads of photo's of my children and family in my albums going back for 40 years. I don't have a camera phone at all. I now have more than a thousand slide photo's, the kind you show on a screen with a projector. I acquired them from, my late ex husbands house after he died 5 years ago. There are 40 years of slides , of our lives over those years. There are a lot of great photo's to view on the screen. I live alone,and now have my own little film shows in the evenings sometimes,up in my attic room.

PeterthePainter · 23/09/2019 03:36

We have less than a dozen photos of our DCs first 3 years - can't say either DW or I are bothered.

MrsTerryPratchett · 23/09/2019 03:57

I have one photo of my grandfather on one side. Two of my GF on the other. Two each of my grandmothers.

About a billion of DD.

Is it better now? I'm not sure it is.

BethanyGilbert · 23/09/2019 06:52

DH didn’t think to take any pictures of me and brand new DD so I have no pictures of us the day she was born. That makes me very sad.

Sunnysidegold · 23/09/2019 08:08

I refused to be in photos with my babies as I was so crippled by low self esteem. How I wish I'd taken more of myself with them. Even a rubbish selfie! I think one a month sounds fine as you can still see them growing and developing. Just try to take more from now on of the two of you!

AlphabetMummy · 23/09/2019 08:35

I think this is quite common for the person who likes taking photos. There are so many more photos of DH with the children than me. I dont take selfies but as theyre getting older its something they enjoy doing, especially near christmas with silly christmas filters lol!
Just make up for it later, and speak to anyone around about making sure they remember to take photos of you with the kids too!! Xx

YouAreTheEggManIAmTheWalrus · 23/09/2019 10:12

Most of my DS baby/toddler/childhood photos are stuck on old netbooks that I don't have the chargers for and don't know the passwords. I'm not sure what's worse, having them and not being able to access them or having none at all!

Zaphodsotherhead · 23/09/2019 10:18

First child - about a billion photos of him, me and him, me, him and his father, him and the cats, etc etc.

Fifth child - not even one until she was of 'sitting up in highchair' age, apart from a couple with her siblings. None of her with me. However, now she is of 'selfie' age and there are about a billion pics of her with me, shopping, lying on beaches etc.

Dowser · 23/09/2019 10:21

I’m lucky . Dad was an amateur photographer with his own dark room so I have loads of photos of me and my family
All black and white
Once colour came in he gave up so
Very few as a teenager though which is sad

eddiemairswife · 23/09/2019 10:40

I'm pre-digital. I have 2 drawers full of photos, covering my, my children's and my grandchildren's lives. Looking at photos on phones just isn't the same.

Bazie · 23/09/2019 10:57

There a very little photos of me with my 22 month old son. Hudreds of him with dad, older sibling and extended family.... Plenty of videos too. I regularly have photos printed and order a year book of days out, birthday etc... It isn't until then that I realise how little of me there are with him and it makes me sad. Everyone else looks at them and remembers fondly, and love that they are in the photos too.
I spend a lot of quality time with my son, and like most of you in the one he wants in the night, if he falls down etc. He hates it if he goes out somewhere without me. (very rarely does that ever happen)

I guess my worry is that should anything happen that meant I was no longer around, he wouldn't have any visual memories of our time together, does that make sense? Wheras if something were to happen to another family member, I'd have plenty of photos to sit with him and show and tell stories and help him keep their memory alive. I'm really not sure im wording this right so apologies if I've waffled or not really made any sense!
In short, in the moment, photos aren't all that important. Looking back, they are priceless.

WheresTheEvidence · 23/09/2019 11:36

As a child who has lost a parent I wish there were more photos of me and my dad to look back on.

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Rose220 · 23/09/2019 14:58

How often do you look over your photos I look over them quiet often.

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Jesse70 · 23/09/2019 19:31

Have u ever looked at people's baby photos
Even your own
There boring it's good to see them grow up or look back at yourself and wonder what the hell you were wearing and what u had done to your hair but apart from that I doubt anyone cares I wouldn't
I have taken alot of my baby but as soon as she started talking I noticed I had stopped because I was too busy talking to her about stuff and I'm not a selfie person anyway I do make sure I get a pic if something special happens tho for her to look back on

sunshineandshowers21 · 23/09/2019 19:41

i had loads of me, and my boyfriend, with all of our kids from birth to now. i think it’s different now though because it’s much easier to take and store/print photos than it used to be. i had my first son at 15 and had a camera phone so i’d take loads of photos on my phone of digital camera and and then go down the chemist and print them for about 12p a photo. now i use apps on my phone to get free prints every month. i don’t have many photos with my parents though because back then you had to buy the film for the camera and then take them to be developed which was obviously a bit of a faff! most people also have their phones on them all the time so it’s very quick and easy to quickly snap lots of pictures.

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