New To Hosting - No Show Guests

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Quite shy, we don't host very often as I find it quite overwhelming but decided to push my comfort zone and host a meal for 8 couples.

Invited a friend, gave a months notice, she said yes would love too etc.

What's App the week before to remind her of times etc, looking forward to seeing you etc. Message received but no reply. Blue ticks.

On the night they didn't attend.

Seen her since and she hasn't mentioned it and I feel weird so I haven't mentioned it either.

I should have text again shouldn't I. 🙁

She was very rude. Did the other guests turn up?

Did the others show? Your friend sounds a bit flakey. Some people do need more reminding, but as adults should be capable of writing down a date and sticking to it.
If something else is going on it's understandable, but basic good manners to let you know.

I think you should have assumed when she read the message but didn’t reply that she wasn’t going to come. Still bloody rude of her though. Other people’s bad manners are not your fault so I don’t think the responsibility is on you to text her again. I probably wouldn’t consider her a friend either, she clearly doesn’t think that much of you if she couldn’t even be bothered to message an excuse and she didn’t apologise when you saw her.

Thank you for taking the time to reply. Yes, thankfully the other guests all came. Why not just say you can't make it though? I don't get it. 🤷‍♀️

She'll have had social anxiety and now worries about talking about it to you.....ps with 14 other guests, I'd have needed a sheepdog to corral them all so well done....I stress enough about 4 people coming..

Thank you. I was worrying about hosting for weeks and felt sick with nerves on the day. Felt so much better afterwards though! Like a weight had been lifted. I don't know how people do it regularly, I found it so intense.

I would have phoned to check. I think hosting for 8 couples would be overwhelming. I prefer 1 or 2 couples so you can enjoy the evening.

I don't know if the pressure would be more intense with just 2 couples though? You can't hide in the crowd then? More pressure to be funny / entertaining?