Being brave in life. How do you do it?

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Life throws shit at us doesn’t it. Everyone has challenges.

I’m a doormat, people pleasing zero confidence doormat.

I’ve got brave.
Handed my notice in at work because I have been bullied and told the manager exactly why I’m leaving also put it into exit questionnaire. I would have left quietly before.
I’ve tackled an issue at school head on and forcefully. It turned out well and to be productive.
I had an interview yesterday, an actual interview for a job. I did it. It was utterly shit but I bloody did it.

I’m not bolshy or unreasonable.
I’m sick of being walked over.

Have you ever got brave and made a stand which was totally out of your character? How did that feel and did you get what you hoped for?
I feel good, I feel a bit empowered even though I’m totally cringing at the memory of that interview!

Good on you OP. I’m a people-pleaser and I want to get out of bring a total pushover with a huge guilt complex!

Go you! 💪🏻 I’ve ‘pretended’ to be brave my whole adult life. I was a shy, quiet nervous child (due to environment at home) and once I became an adult I decided to push myself outside my comfort zone. Most people that know me now would probably say I am confident and brave. But secretly I am pretending. A lot of the time my stomach is in notts as I force myself to do things that make me nervous/anxious. It’s getting easier as the years go by to fool myself that I’m confident and I love the feeling of empowerment that I get when I push myself to do something that makes me uncomfortable. However deep down I still have the same insecurities although no one knows that but me.

Do you think that the bravest, most together and confident people all wing it and pretend?

I think a lot of them do. But there must also be some lucky people that it comes naturally to. The rest of us just have to wing it. It’s nit the easiest way to live, but I think it’s better than the alternative. I also hope that it rubs off on my children, and they can take things in there stride with no stress 🍀💕

I do it because I have no choice, so you could say I am pretending!! It used to drive me nuts when people called me brave, now I am so bloody proud of the things I have overcome and how brave I have been. Following the death of dd1 at the start of the year I had no choice but to be brave...aside from the horrendous things that come with losing a child, going back to work and putting on a brave face was a HUGE challenge.
I remind myself daily that life is short and I should make the most of it, even if I have to put myself out of my comfort zone and be brave! Bravery is different to everyone - I hate public speaking and for me this would require a huge amount of bravery, but for lots of people it doesn’t phase them.

Robs20 I’m so sorry about your precious girl!💕

Agree about the “putting one a brave face”, this is a big part of the act isn’t it.
I don’t mean brave as such I mean resilience and pushing through your comfort as you say Robs while inside crumbling to dust.