What can i write inside this card to my mum?

[Apolloanddaphne]

Today would have been my parents 60th wedding anniversary but sadly my DF died about 6 weeks ago. I plan to drop in later to give my mum some flowers and a card. But what to write in it? Is anyone good with words who can help me? T

hey had a very happy marriage and i know my mum feels sad today as i have already spoken to her on the phone. I don't want to make her feel sadder, i think i want her to smile.

I think its good to acknowledge the day, my dad died 5 years ago and they had been married for almost 60 years. I always get my Mum flowers for their anniversary and on Dad’s birthday. I haven’t given a card though, didn’t enter my head and I don’t think it’s needed in my case. I think the fact that you remembered the day and given the flowers is enough, I’d skip the card.
5 years on, my Mum still gets sad on these days. Sorry for you losing your Dad x

Keep it a simple message telling her how much you love her. Or skip it, like Catsmother said. Sorry for both your loss

I would put
" I will always remember this special date that you and Dad got married. Such a special couple that loved and supported each other and passed this down to your children and grandchildren (as appropriate)

I am not really good with words, but I know what I would put to my mum.

To Mum

I know today is hard and I am so sad Dad couldn't be here to celebrate your 60th wedding anniversary with you. I just want to say I love you and I am thinking of you today. Throughout the 60 years of marriage you kept true to your vows and gave him 60 years of your life, for that I am grateful and I know he was too. We will always miss him.

Love you so much

DD

I’d skip the card tbh. I can’t imagine anything you could put that would cause more comfort than pain this close to his death. A celebration card is just going to remind her how much she’s lost, she isn’t going to feel like celebrating. I’d buy a gift and spend the day with her, perhaps take her out if she feels up to it

Thank you all. Actually i think those of you saying to skip the card are right. I never sent them an anniversary card so it may seem a bit false. We are also not sentimental sorts. The flowers I have picked are bright and cheerful and will make her happy.

I'm so sorry you've lost your dad op 🌺

Your mum is just going to grieve and that's that. She's in the very early days and I doubt anything will make her feel happy if I'm honest.

But your love will comfort her. I really wouldn't try to cheer her up, it's just not that kind of situation.

Flowers, yes (if she's the flowers sort) but just be with her. He will have left an absolutely gaping hole, nothing can fill it, though a break from the unremitting aloneness may help. Who knows? My dad has only just lost my mum and he is not interested in anyone or anything for now. I just have to let him set the pace.

Best thing to do is let her do it the way she needs to do it. There are no rules about grief, it's so powerful you can't control it.

Something like..

I couldn't not mark the day when my wonderful parents were married. The past 60 years have been filled with joy and happy times, for both of you and then later for me, and I am so thankful to have had you both in my life. Our memories of Dad are so precious, and I wouldn't change them for the world. I love you xxx

I would stick with flowers and no card..I give my.mum flowers on their anniversary day ever since dad died. I like to think dad approves
Sorry for your loss

Speaking as someone who lost their DH last year, I think it's nice that my DCs remember anniversaries and birthdays. I either get flowers, texts or a card. Sometimes they just say 'thinking of you'. It's good that they recognise what we meant to each other. By the way I always get late DH a card for his birthday and our anniversary!

I'd put something short and simple, like " Thinking of you and Dad on your special day, all my love xxx "