Sunnet celebration

[Beetlecrusher]

Hi,

DS has been invited to a sunnet (circumcision) celebration for one of his friends - just the celebration, he'll have already had the procedure. I don't know the family, and rarely see them (they were in pre-school together but not in same school now) so thought I'd ask my questions here. Are there any "rules" I need to know about? Me and DH are going too - what should we wear? As far as I'm aware the family aren't really devoutly Muslim, but I'm guessing smart and appropriate/covered would be ok. I assume we get a gift, what's traditional? Anything else we should know?

Thank you!

How old are they?

The boy whose party it is has just turned 4.

I believe he had the procedure several months ago, and this is the celebration.

Assuming your DC are similar age, just why?
They won't understand any social mores so don't go.
Taking kids to watch a toddler have his penis mutilated and peeled isn't my kind of celebrations.

@TheQueef I agree. Whether the child had it for religious or health reasons it’s horrible to hold a celebration for it.

*awaits to be told I’m some kind of ‘ist. 🙄

They won't be watching, it was done months ago.

DS has struggled with making friends, he doesn't have many. I'm not sure I agree with it for cultural reasons, but it's happening whether or not we go or not.

Its not a party about having his penis cut, its a celebration about welcoming him into adulthood.

At 4 years old Loch? Aye right.

Give me one good reason that this was done? Just one?

I don't see a good reason why it's done. However, it has been done. And this is the traditional thing in their culture. A culture which I know very little about. Hence asking about the event. As this is a site with a large number of users, I thought somebody may know something.

At age 4, 1/10 boys foreskin hasn't detatched. So one in ten boys who have this done have their glans peeled to remove the skin. Not foreskin, skin, peeled off.
I wouldn't be able to go and congratulate the little fella.

It sounds as if it's just an excuse for a party - no sillier than a birthday. I'd definitely go - you and DS might learn something. What could possibly go wrong? - I doubt if you'll be regaled with before and after photos.