Anyone had an abortion?

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Just found I'm pregnant with someone so soon I just don't feel ready yet I'm in a difficult situation and very confused.

So was wondering what is it like to have one and did you regret it?

Thanks in advanced ☹️

I’ve had two. Both types, the operation under general anaesthetic and the pills to bring on miscarriage.

First was because I was far too young (under 16) and second was DH and I had 2 children and we were done but fell pregnant accidentally and we just really didnt think we could cope with 3.

I don’t regret either. Your body your choice.

Similar to desperatehousewife.

In answer to how it feels, I'd say after a D&C under general you'll feel a bit woozy and may have some light pains which are easily controlled with OTC painkillers. If you choose the pill type of abortion you'll feel period type pains when it's happening and then maybe some light pain for a day or so afterwards.

Emotions-wise you may feel sad, relieved, empty, thankful and happy!

I don't regret my terminations.

At 21 I had a surgical one. I had a child already, I got pregnant with the implant, it wasn’t planned, I had awful post natal depression, I was single, struggling for money, I had a bad pregnancy with my first. I just dreaded the thought of it. I had a surgical termination and have never regretted it or even felt very guilty about it to be honest.

I have and don't regret it for one minute.

Yes, one. No regrets as it wouldn’t have been fair at the time to bring a baby into our situation. However, it’s not been easy and some times I have moments where I think ‘what if’.

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1, I don't regret it as such but I do always wonder what kind of human they'd be now, they'd be 3 years old. It was completely the right decision at the time and I wouldn't have been able to manage with a child then, our situation wasn't ideal to raise a baby.

Yes. At the Calthorpe Clinic, edgbaston,birmingham. surgical. years ago. no regrets at all, in fact as I'd stopped the procreation line of that bastard i think i did womanhood a great favour. where's my medal?

Yes, 15 Years ago now. It was a surgical one, the procedure was pretty traumatic if I'm honest. I was barely 18 and in a casual relationship. It didn't even cross either of our minds to keep the child, although now I'm a Mother I do occasionally wonder what if..

I also had a surgical abortion at 12 weeks. Used BPAS and was made to stay overnight.

It was fine. I was sick after the general anaesthetic but otherwise fine.

Cramping and pain for a few days.

It was the right thing for me. I was sad and for a while I got a bit baby obsessed. Recovered though and had my son 3 years later.

Oh yes, I do remember the date of the abortion and I do think about what they would have been like and their age now etc. Only briefly occurs to me though.

I had one and I did regret it but I know it was for the best. I sometimes get upset and regret it again. My dh got a vasectomy after so no going back now. Do what's best for you and seek support

I had a surgical abortion at 12 weeks at 19. The father who is still my dp didn't want the baby, and I was undecided so I had an abortion mainly for him which I know is not what most women would do or recommend!

The process of getting an abortion was so easy and quick. They called me, discussed why I wanted one and I got one the next week. The process itself was okay. I was under general anaesthetic as I definitely fancied a surgical more than the pill you can take. I had my anaesthetic, and next thing I knew I was awake (it took about 15 minutes maximum) and shortly had some tea and biscuits and left. I also had the mirena fitted (be ready for the nurses to push you into getting it-that's why I have it today).

Even though the experience of actually getting the abortion was fine, beforehand I was in pieces. I had an appointment before the appointment where I actually had the termination and with the protestors outside the building I felt I couldn't do it. I wasn't sure and my hormones were making me crazy so I waited a week and had some counselling.

Now I am happy, much healthier mentally and physically and don't regret my decision as I couldn't have had my amazing life now if I had had the baby. I don't regret it but I do look at the tests (I kept my + pregnancy tests for some reason) every now and then and wonder what my baby would look like and think of what personality it could've had and the life I could've had.

Excuse my waffle..basically it was a good decision and it was relatively easy (apart from the first few weeks after the abortion as I was hormonal and scared) and painless for me, although I know it's different for everyone.

I hope you come to a happy decision and everything works out for you. You have time, but not too much time so have a good think and maybe call BPAS (who I had my termination with) for advice.

xxx

Yes also at Calthorpe clinic 20 years ago

Surgical. No problems after that I can recall, went on to have a baby years later.
No regrets.

I wasnt offered any counselling back then I would guess you would be now though.

What wonderful women you all are thank you! I already have a child she's 3 but I know it's too soon it's a new guy I've been dating a few months he wants me to have the baby he said he supports me with what decision I make and I'm just so confused like that's my baby but then I know it's too soon and there's other things on top. I just wanted to know incase I regret it! And hearing your experiences makes me feel a little more at ease! 💕

I've had two medicals, 10 years apart. I had mixed feelings both times (although I was sure of my choice), I've never regretted either. The first time I was only a teenager and, forgive me if this sounds crass, but it was the best decision I ever made. My life would look so very different now if I'd gone on to have a baby at that age.

Yes but many years ago . It was not consensual and I was under 16 so there was choice really. I had to travel overseas too. I didn't want the abortion but my mum made me go through with it. I didn't speak to them for about 5 years after that.
It was quite traumatising for me afterwards because I used to have regular dreams about a baby called Anna and I was convinced that it was the aborted baby( I do dream occasionally still)
Looking back it was for the best and I now have lovely dc but I do have those moments when I think just what if......

1. The first was with a cheating bastard. The second was just before I moved to the other side of the world. The first hit me hard emotionally but that was because I didn't have any support from him and he made me feel like I was going mad. The second was ok. Both medical and both bloody painful but no i dont regret it. I'm now 19wks pregnant with the same man I was pregnant to the second time round. Its shit and I regret getting myself into that situation but I dont regret the decision and the impact they had ultimately. It would've been unfair on any baby, now is the right time for us we are settled and financially and emotionally stable.