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5 year old weeing on her bedroom floor

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sashamichele · 18/09/2019 08:13

So for a couple of months I've noticed wet patches on DD's floor I've asked her about it and she's said her water bottle feel over in the night.
Last night I asked her to tidy her room because I was taking her to bed soon, she went upstairs and her room was immaculate she's tidied her toys away and made over her bed. When I took her up and tucked her in my foot went in a huge wet patch it was soaked I asked her about it and she said she didn't know, she shares a room with her two year old sister so I just cleaned it up best I could and thought nothing of it. At 5:45 both woke up and I told them to get in bed with me, 10 minutes laters dd2 was sick so I asked dd5 to go downstairs and ask her dad for towel, she got me the towel and then told me she was going to go back in her bed, as I was sorting dd2 out I could hear the sound of someone weeing, I looked out of my bedroom door and there dd5 was squatting in her bedroom weeing on the carpet, she looked straight at me and knew she'd done wrong and jumped back in her bed. I literally stood there in shock Shock what the hell is happening? Our bathroom is downstairs and she has no problem going down there or coming to me and asking me to take her so why is she suddenly pissing on her bedroom carpet. I have 3 older teenager and have never dealt with anything like this in my life I don't know how to approach it with her. Anyone got any advice?

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Soola · 18/09/2019 08:15

I am no childbirth psychiatrist but imagine it’s to do with the younger sibling, perhaps jealousy?

MrsElizabethShelby · 18/09/2019 08:17

My eldest DC did this. I think it's a combination of laziness and attention seeking.
Having a go made it worse. Ask about her Day and pay attention to see if there is a pattern. Turned out my DC was being picked on at school and felt neglected at home because of DC2

Windygate · 18/09/2019 08:41

Maybe she is frightened to go downstairs at night, jealous of younger sibling or even just lazy. Would a potty work?

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sashamichele · 18/09/2019 09:57

I don't think it's laziness she had been downstairs to get a towel for me and has never had a problem going to the loo before plus her dad was downstairs getting ready to leave for work.

She's also started doing other things in her room like drawing on the walls and going into her big sisters bedrooms and smearing they're makeup everywhere. She took a chocolate mouse yogurt into her bedroom last week without me knowing and smeared it into her carpet. She's just doing the most random stuff all of a sudden and I don't understand why. She's 5 years old and was really nervous about starting year 1 she seems to be settling in and I have no problems getting her there but her behaviour in the mornings has really gotten bad. She won't eat her breakfast or get dressed and put her shoes on. She's become really clingy too and only wants me.
Her dad and me are separating and his moving into his own place on Saturday I'm starting to wonder if it could be that.

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Supersimkin · 18/09/2019 09:58

She doesn't like the baby.

bruffin · 18/09/2019 10:08

So she has weed numerous times in her bedroom and you havent noticed a smell(hmm)

westcountrychicken · 18/09/2019 10:11

Maybe she just wanted to see what happened? Have you asked her? My eldest did similar at that age lying on the bathroom floor, you could see he just wanted to see what happened as he'd never done a wee anywhere other than a loo or a nappy. We talked about it and it has never happened again.

DoctorAllcome · 18/09/2019 10:15

“She's 5 years old and was really nervous about starting year 1 she seems to be settling in and I have no problems getting her there but her behaviour in the mornings has really gotten bad. She won't eat her breakfast or get dressed and put her shoes on. She's become really clingy too”

These are all signs that she is NOT adjusting to being in school FT.
Children will think if they break the routine, then the last item in sequence will not happen. So she’s thinking, if I do not eat breakfast, get dressed, put on shoes, then I can’t go to school. THe clinginess is also to seek comfort when afraid, anxious.

The school may not see it, so you need to ask her why she is reluctant to get ready on a school day.

Windygate · 18/09/2019 10:19

Your update explains a lot. You have a very unhappy and insecure little girl. She isn't coping with the massive changes in her life.
I'd be speaking to the school, HV etc.

CircleofWillis · 18/09/2019 10:22

I'd start by speaking to her. Ask her if she knows why she is doing it and if there is anything she would like help with or changed.

CircleofWillis · 18/09/2019 10:23

She also seems to have quite a bit of responsibility for a 5 year old.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 18/09/2019 10:25

She's just started school and her Dad is moving out. Those are big changes for a five year old...

30to50FeralHogs · 18/09/2019 10:26

So big changes at school and at home. Yes that probably explains why. But she clearly needs some help to deal with it. Can you speak to school and see if they have someone to deal with pastoral care there? There’s usually someone who can help.

user1474894224 · 18/09/2019 10:26

My goodness - you and her dad are separating. That is a massive change for a little girl (or even a big girl). She's also just started a new school year. Her world is upside down. It doesn't make it ok - but does make it make sense. She needs you to help her make sense of the new world. Be clear on the boundaries. Make her feel loved and valued. Let her know it's ok to not feel ok and give her ways and opportunities to express this to you. Poor wee thing.

savingshoes · 18/09/2019 10:33

Is she drinking enough?
Has she been assaulted?
Has she seen something that wasn't age appropriate?
You need to speak to the H/V for your area ASAP and perhaps ask your daughter if there's anything that's upset/distressed her lately.

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sashamichele · 18/09/2019 10:37

@bruffin no I haven't noticed a smell. I smelt the patch last night but it just smelt of nothing so I just put it down to water, until I saw her this morning I probably wouldn't of noticed.

I'm going to speak to her teacher and ask if she's noticed anything but she's new and we're only two weeks in to this term so I'm not expecting much from her.

I'll speak to dd after school today alone away from the house. She's not said much about her dad moving out but she has become extremely clingy to me, only wants me to take her to bed, only wants me to make her dinner, me helping her with her shoes ect.

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TheOrigBrave · 18/09/2019 10:57

Her dad and me are separating and his moving into his own place on Saturday I'm starting to wonder if it could be that.

You think? Shock
You need to prioritise the emotional needs of your child.
You're mid separation and only when she starts to act up do you start to wonder if it's affecting her?

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sashamichele · 18/09/2019 11:37

@TheOrigBrave tbh I didn't realise it had affected her, she been bed shopping with her dad and picking out colours and furniture for her room at his.

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