9 year old girls

[thaegumathteth]

The friendship dramas - is this usual? Ds never did any of this so unsure if its gender related or I was just lucky with him....

Any top tips to help them?

Any top tips to survive without turning to drink?

belleandbete in my experience, 9-year-old boys fall out because of things such as how they behave on a football pitch, trying to control playtime, running to supervisors to report something someone else did that they didn’t like, and someone being “annoying.”

I have both sexes of children (now all teenagers) and the dynamics have similarities but are played out in different ways.

Yes . I teach year 3/4. I can tell you it’s always the girls who come in from playtime telling stories and tales about their friends

My 10 year old dd has taken to spending time one on one with the quieter boys who like reading the same books as her. This is not cool according to her friends but think gives dd some respite from them.

I don't have daughters but I remember year 5 well, as I was in a trio of friends at the time (do they ever work?!) and it was horrible! Very very usual, sadly. Secondary school wasn't as bad though so hopefully for you, 9 is the peak age!

I have 2 8yos in yr 4 and there seem to be some dc more prone than others. Dtd2 is in a very tight group that does worry me, not because they are not lovely, they are, but their mums are so intense in their friendships I worry I'm not as friendly (meet-ups every weekend and doing their supermarket shops together, organising clothes shopping so the friends all have the same dress at the disco etc - dd is always non-matchy and luckily seems happy to be different.) I find the adults weird (especially 1) and it does rub off on the dc. So far dd is proving resilient but it seems the parents (queen bee) causing most drama and I know it'll be worse at some point.

Dd1 is in less of a tight group and a few of them are mean re one minute talking and the next refusing but it's very rare.

My friend has a daughter in year 6 and my goodness it's mad.

OP, my eldest is 9 and in year 5 and the drama started for us at the end of year 4. Oh. My. Days. It's driving me mad.

In my experience so far, it seems that my daughter would be much happier if she minded her own business!!! She interferes when she really doesnt need to and then wonders why other children get cross with her.

Absolutely @theneverendinglaundry I've lost count of how many times I've said 'it's none of your business stay out of it'

It was so strange watching her behaviour this morning. She was happy and chirpy but as soon as we got to school and she was surrounded by her peers, she became aloof! Like it's not cool to be happy and friendly with your parents!

Very normal I'm afraid x