problem with period pants

[rollNsausage]

DD (11) has been using period pants since starting her periods in Jan. We've tried different versions.

Thinx - most stylish and trendy but leak and not good for heavy flows which DD has been getting. Not even the so-called 'heavy' pants

Cheeky Wipes - do not leak but DD hates how they feel and look

Wuka - DD's favourite, Last her all through school which is important when you have a DD who forgets to change her pants during the day.

The problem we now have is that the Wuka pants show through DD's trousers. the shape of them I mean. They are very bulky. DD refuses to wear skirts as she doesn't like wearing skirts or tights. She's very tall so skirts do look a bit daft on her. Her friends have been saying ooo i can see your pants. DD is embarrassed.

I don't know what to do. DD keeps forgetting to change her pants midday so the wuka pants are good for that. She refuses to try tampons or cups or pads. She won't wear a skirt or tights. I've tried to reason with her but she's not having it. So the period pants with trousers is the only thing she's agreeing on.

I feel bad for DD and mad at her horrible friends. I'm wondering whether to get her a long cardigan or something. I don't want to buy any more period pants as they aren't cheap!

Any suggestions from other period pant users would be good

RollNsausage: Yes she washes her own pants. Not always correctly, but we are (slowly) getting there. I'm being very firm.
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Excellent! She'll get there.

Ask her how she intends to solve the problem - stop trying to solve it for her. She knows the various alternatives available: there's no magic wand waiting to be waved.

I'm a secondary school teacher and when kids come to me with a problem of their own making, I ask them how they plan to solve it. I then help them choose the best solution, but they have to show that they've thought through some possibilities. Your DD needs to start doing the same.

I sounded a bit harsh earlier but you have my sympathy as my DD was similar at that age. You just have to leave the ball in their court in the end. Periods are rubbish and it's a lot for them to deal with...

Thinx with additonal cloth pad? (I can't use dispaosable pads either, horrid things)

In the kindest way possible I do think you need to give her a range of sanitary protection and let her get on with it. My mum didn't get involved at all beyond buying it for me and I explored with tampons when the time was right. I also learnt about leaking whilst wearing white denim shorts! It's not the end of the world she WILL work out it. Part of growing up etc.