Low sperm Count & he's telling me to leave him

[Pionalbe]

Name changed for this for obvious reasons.

Partner went to GP because he couldn't get an erection and he did a seman analysis and was told he has a low sperm Count so probably won't be able to have children.

He's been telling me he knows I don't love him anymore.

He told me to leave him because I want children and he won't be able to give me a child. And this morning he told me to leave him and be with a real man.

And it doesn't help that his parents keep asking us when I'm going to have their grandchild (he's an only child). Partner told them we are trying (to try and get them to shut up about it) but now his parents ask how it's going. Yesterday we went round and they asked and he walked away because he was going to start crying and they just assumed I had a miscarriage.

Don't know what I want from this post.

My DH was the same. Zero sperm count. We had a huge bust up, because he wanted me to leave him. It took me ages to understand, but he was grieving, as was I.

I took an early decision that I would rather have a childless future with him in my life, than go and try for kids with someone else - if I ever met someone else.

He couldn't believe I loved him enough for that - it took a lot of convincing (not a control thing, before people start) that he deserved love.

We were told DH had so few sperm that we would never conceive without IVF. I was pregnant 6 weeks later.
Second time round it didn't work out and we adopted instead. There are other ways. Talk to each other.

He thinks I don't love him and that I'm just with him to keep him happy.

I'm thinking about talking to him and asking him if he wanted to stop using condoms to see what happens. But not sure if that would upset him when my period came and I wasn't pregnant.

When we started talking about children he said he wanted to adopt a child and have biological children aswell. But now he said he doesn't want to adopt or donor sperm etc.

That sounds the same as us. He's grieving, and pushing you away. Hold him close, talk, cry, whatever you both need.

It will be too soon for any decisions on where to go next.

Partner told his parents to stop asking and we will tell them when I'm pregnant but they asked if we wanted to Go to their house today and partner said no because he's working and they said he shouldn't be working he should be looking after me

I think you need to tell his parents that you haven’t had a miscarriage. They also need to stop speculating!
My husband had been told at a fairly young age he couldn’t have kids so I think he had time to get his head around it before we met. He did tell me he understood If I didn’t know any to be with him because of it and I do think he felt like he let me down. Assurance and love is needed. His manhood is hurt. He will come around.

If we told them I didn't have a miscarriage, what would we tell them why he was upset? On Sunday we didn't say anything they just said we had a miscarriage

I think your dh should say "Pion hasn't had a miscarriage but we'd just be grateful if you didn't ask us about trying for a baby as it's private"

You really can't let them just think you've had a miscarriage.

I know I can't let them think I had a miscarriage.

On Sunday they asked me why partner was upset and then they assumed I have a miscarriage

There could be a million reasons for being upset. To assume a miscarriage is odd.