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What's the nicest thing your DH has ever said to you that wasn't romantic

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boddtm · 15/09/2019 23:25

DH pottering around the house this PM
"I was just upstairs and the kids were in their rooms with the doors open and I could see them just being happy in their rooms. I'm happy - we have a good life"
Was ridiculously happy about this- it wasn't at all romantic but has made the crap we've been through together - and there's been a lot- all melt away.

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BoswellsBollocks · 16/09/2019 22:54

Our DC are 18 & 14. They were having a laugh with DH yesterday over something while I was washing up. DH came up begind me and said “thank you so much for bringing them up to be such lovely lads”

I did point out he was involved a fair bit too, but he said that it was down to me that they were so perfect.

That was such a lovely thing to hear, bless him.

ilovebagpuss · 16/09/2019 22:55

I do have a couple of memorable ones.
when we were teens and into our Doc Martins I had a new pair that were killing me and was grumbling a bit as we were on a walk on holiday, swap with me he said I’ll wear them in. It’s always stuck with me.
Also after having DD1 I used to sing her a lot of bedtime songs as my mum did to me I came out of her room and he was sitting in the hall all soppy and said he just loved hearing me sing her to sleep.

StormBaby · 16/09/2019 22:56

I'd only been with DH a few months when my mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer. He only met her a few times, yet he was wheeling her into A&E, zooming about making her giggle. He said to her "I'm going to marry your daughter" and snuck her a peek at the ring he'd just bought(I did know what he was showing her as I hate surprises). I had a call at 1am to get to the hospital 12 days later and he drove like a lunatic to get me there with just 5 mind to spare. He was my absolute rock during a very difficult time.

He tells anyone who will listen about how amazing and supportive and beautiful I am. I'm sure they don't really care! I overheard him telling someone that he'd have married me the day we laid eyes on each other the other day.

moanyhole · 16/09/2019 23:01

DH is the most unromantic man ever but he shows his love by practical things like making sure my car is filled with fuel, bringing me tea in bed and minding me if Im sick. He changed my sanitary towels after each dc and sterilised the breast pump parts when I was exclusively pumping after each pump, even during the night. I knew he was a keeper when I got so drunk on my 30th and we had only just met a month before. He cleaned me up after vomiting everywhere in his house and got me into clean clothes and stayed awake just looking at me in case Id choke! Next day he kept my hydrated and administered paracetamol as needed.

Only few days he stopped the hoover and said out of the blue "you know you are very special". He has never said anything like that. Then he just carried on hoovering!

Gooseygoosey12345 · 16/09/2019 23:02

There's quite a few but I think my favourite was when I was having a rough time trying to breastfeed DS and I was in tears (generally don't cry and DH is like the grey man, totally doesn't know how to deal with it) and he just gave me a cuddle and said "I'm so proud of you, you're such an amazing mum" and it just meant the world to me at the time.

31133004Taff · 16/09/2019 23:04

And you’re all clever enough and lovely enough to both accept the compliment and cherish the compliment 💐

Gooseygoosey12345 · 16/09/2019 23:06

Oh and also, randomly, "your job is so much harder than mine". His roundabout way of saying he appreciates how much I do for our family. That meant a lot

GreyMarble · 16/09/2019 23:06

He's not my husband yet (6 months to go!) but we miscarried back in 2013. I have a volatile relationship with my own mother (who wasn't bothered about what I was going through because she 'miscarried three times so it's not that big a deal'), but he knew how much I needed a mum at that moment.
I lost almost half of my blood, and he simply said 'I'll get mum'. He brought his own mum in, who held my hand the entire time. And that was the moment I knew they were my family.

Both the most heart breaking but heart warming moment of my entire life.

On a side note, this thread is beautiful.

daisychain01 · 16/09/2019 23:08

"You're my fantasy"

GreyMarble · 16/09/2019 23:20

Also, I lost my father when I was young. DH(to be) once turned around and said he wishes he got to meet the man who made me such a wonderful person.
He took me to the cemetery a while back and I did my usual thing of placing a kiss on his headstone and heading for the car. I turned around and saw him crouched down, and he said 'you'd be so proud'.

I've shed so many tears reading this thread tonight. You are all so blessed, as am I.

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boddtm · 16/09/2019 23:25

@Ginmel I'm lucky, no doubt about it Grinbut seemingly so are lots of us! I'd love to see this in classics as a sort of reminder that good fellas do exist.

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boddtm · 16/09/2019 23:26

@GreyMarble Serious tears over that one - what a lovely moment

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boddtm · 16/09/2019 23:27

Oh I bloody love this. All these lovely lovely moments

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Ninkaninus · 16/09/2019 23:29

What a wonderful thread.

This is what love is.

I had a big argument with my OH a couple of days ago. It’s very rare that we row but we’ve got the one sticking point and this week it came up.

But i absolutely love him to bits. He is a good, decent man, someone I truly admire for his strength of character, his steadfastness and capable nature, and the breadth and width of his intellect (and many more things which I won’t mention here). He is also mostly very patient with me and my difficult nature, I wouldn’t be without him for anything in the world and I’m grateful every day that we happened upon each other.

(Sorry for wordiness and excessive soppiness, just feeling sorry for being unreasonable to him the other day)

I can’t think of my favourite compliment from him that wasn’t romantic as to me, every compliment he gives me is hugely romantic. But I want to share my favourite thing he does for me (it actually is very romantic, IMO)

Every night without fail when we’re snuggling in bed and getting ready to sleep, he covers me up with the duvet and tucks it around my shoulder because he doesn’t want me to be cold in the night.

He has a very long commute so wakes up much earlier than me. I don’t sleep well so I usually wake up as he gets up and snooze a bit while he gets ready for the day. Every morning without fail he comes back before leaving the house give me a kiss and tell me he loves me. It’s my favourite part of the day. That kiss means the world to me.

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boddtm · 16/09/2019 23:35

@Ninkaninus I honestly didn't imagine so many lovely responses to this, it makes me happy to think that so many good men/relationships exist
I've been through some crappy relationships prior to this and was terrified when I started having 'proper' feelings towards DH. I'm glad I trusted my gut and went for it

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TDMN · 16/09/2019 23:40

@ChopinIn10Minuets that is the sweetest story i've heard all year, what a lovely fellow your DF must have been.

Bexta147 · 16/09/2019 23:43

I’m going through a pretty shit time at the minute and OH has been amazing with me.

A lot of my issue is that I’m overwhelmed with everything I’ve got going on and need to make some decisions.
My part time bar job is the obvious thing to go but I’ve been worried about going from weekly pay to only monthly. He turned round and said not to worry about it and the money he usually gives me monthly he will split up and give me weekly, plus a bit extra. It really took some of the stress off trying to make the right decision for the right reasons.

TDMN · 16/09/2019 23:49

@GreyMarble yours has set me off. What a wonderful man you are marrying.

Ginmel · 16/09/2019 23:50

@boddtm true and it is lovely to read. You probably win in my books though with your dog so deserving of your 6th seat.

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boddtm · 16/09/2019 23:54

@Ginmel ha ha she's currently fast asleep (and snoring loudly) on our only recliner. I think she may be a little spoiled 🙈

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Ginmel · 16/09/2019 23:55

As all dogs should be

Megs4x3 · 16/09/2019 23:58

What a lovely, lovely thread. My husband isn’t the romantic flowers and chocolates type man, but he does many lovely things for me. I’m tearful reading everyone else’s lovely moments, but I’m having a hard time picking out just one or two examples of my own. He actually blushes if I tell him how wonderful he is, and we’re in our 60’s with grandchildren.

caringcarer · 16/09/2019 23:59

After I had been away weekdays for five weeks nursing my dying Mum....and dh had been left at home to deal with 2 stepsons and a foster child....

I came back on Friday evening driving for 3 hours to get back home to my family and was tired from driving and emotional about my Mum deteriorating he said you are like the sun and all of us here are like planets and revolve around you, and when you are not here we all get thrown out of orbit. I just cried because he made me feel so loved.

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boddtm · 17/09/2019 00:01

@caringcarer Oh wow. What a wonderful way to show you how much you mean

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SospanFrangipan · 17/09/2019 00:03

I overheard him say to DS when he was a few weeks old 'You don't know how precious you are' It melted my heart!

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