15 year old DD and one of her closest friends (boy) sleepover..?

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My DD is nearly 16 and has a lovely group of friends from an out of school club. They have had big mixed sleepovers before, with all of them crashing in one room- usually between 5-8 of them depending on whose house they are at.
They mostly live a bit of a distance together & get together for their activity which has grown into other social activities too.
My DD would like to meet up with one of her friends after school on Friday and then have him come up for dinner, watch a movie etc and stay over; he lives about 20 mins- 1/2 an hours drive away. She looked surprised when I said he’d have to stay in another room and replied ‘I don’t understand why, he’s one of my best friends, we were going to watch movies and chat til we fell asleep’.i do trust that there is nothing between them but friendship) If female friends of her stay then they still tend to bed share rather than go on a mattress etc.
May I ask how you’d respond to the same request?

She’s old enough to understand that it’s as much the look of the thing as any risk. My best friend in 6th form was a chap and we both understood why we couldn’t share a room when we stayed over. Did so subsequently and never so much as kissed him but tee were both adults at house parties then and the etiquette is completely different.

The compromise is sleeping bags in the living room, at 15 (I assume he's the same school year) if they wanted to have a relationship more than just friends they will so whilst I understand your concerns I would suggest having some trust.

Dd's best friend is male, he was always allowed to stay over in her room.

It would depend on the boy. E.g. if I thought they were going to watch a film, chat about boys then fall asleep in separate beds, same room, fine.
If it was a friend maybe possible romance in the future situation then dinner etc yes, sleepover no.
Both straight kids, definitely no romance then maybe if separate rooms.

If you know her, then I'd trust her. I always had mostly male friends and at school there was never a hint of anything more than friendship between us. I even shared beds with my best mate a few times for practical reasons and there wasn't a chance in hell of anything happening!

Hmm think I would send him to the sofa to sleep personally. I'd let them hang out door shut maybe but once I was calling it a night I'd send him to the sofa or give him a lift home. Not sure I'd let my 15 yr old have mixed sleepovers either though. ...and I've always thought I would be a pretty easy going sort...

My mum didn't let me share a room with my best mate at 13 (even though is gay xD ) and I remember feeling hurt at the time - but also getting why it wasn't appropriate.