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Holiday with mum and stepdad

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kellyw1989 · 15/09/2019 08:33

Random I know but wanted peoples opinion, I’m due to go on holiday with my partner my mum and step dad abroad. My mum has been with her partner for 12 mths (nice guy) but older 62. I normally sunbath topless. Is it an issue to I’m front of him ? Caused a debate between me and my partner

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KatiePricesLeftEar · 15/09/2019 08:34

Er, probably not a good idea!! Respect your partner!

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kellyw1989 · 15/09/2019 08:35

Thanks katiepricesleftear

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15thOctober2019 · 15/09/2019 08:38

Er, probably not a good idea!! Respect your partner!

In what way is this disrespectful to her partner?

It isn't 1819- women don't have to wear what men dictate.

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kellyw1989 · 15/09/2019 08:40

Thank u

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Aquamarine1029 · 15/09/2019 08:41

I would be more concerned how your mother feels about it.

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kellyw1989 · 15/09/2019 08:42

Thanks aquamarine

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ShippingNews · 15/09/2019 08:43

The fact that you "normally sunbathe topless" doesn't mean "you have to sunbathe topless in every circumstance". The fact is that not everyone wants to see your boobs - why not be thoughtful and refrain from showing them off.

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kellyw1989 · 15/09/2019 08:44

Thanks shippingnews

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TwentyEight12 · 15/09/2019 08:45

How about asking your Mum what she thinks would be the appropriate thing to do around herself and her partner?

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 15/09/2019 08:46

I probably wouldn’t as it would probably embarrass your mum’s partner. I’m sure you can cover up for one holiday. Or go to the beach alone if you desperately need bronzed boobs.

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kellyw1989 · 15/09/2019 08:47

Thank you all

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MildThing · 15/09/2019 08:50

It all depends.

62 year olds grew up watching Woodstock on the TV. Led the liberal revolution. During his 20s and 30s topless sunbathing became de rigeur.

If it feels relaxed and cool do it. If not , don’t.

Maybe don’t wander into the kitchen to pour a drink or watch TV with your top off.

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kellyw1989 · 15/09/2019 08:51

😂😂thank u

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MildThing · 15/09/2019 08:52

How is a boyfriend of your Mums of 12 months relationship your step dad?

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kellyw1989 · 15/09/2019 08:53

He is her partner/boyfriend so my stepdad to be

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Smidge001 · 15/09/2019 08:55

How is a boyfriend of your Mums of 12 months relationship your step dad?
Don't be an arse. A dad can be a dad without being married to your mum. Surely a step dad doesn't have to be married to your mum either. If they're in a serious relationship it amounts to the same thing. Not everyone believes you have to have a piece of paper to make a relationship official.

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kellyw1989 · 15/09/2019 08:57

Thanks smidge was thinking the same tbh

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Rachelover60 · 15/09/2019 09:10

Play it by ear, you may find most of the women at the resort are topless so you would just blend in. If hardly anyone is topless, don't do it.

MildThing · 15/09/2019 09:11

Sorry for de-railing.
It’s not about the marital status, I just see being a Dad as someone who brings you up or helps bring you up. And as a step parent takes awhile to squire that title. I would never call a partner of a year ‘step dad’ to my kids.

By if you are fine with it, that is of course fine. Sorry!

Whoopstheregomyinsides · 15/09/2019 09:26

I’d say this is more about whether sunbathing top less is the norm where you’re going and with your usualcompany. I wouldn’t go topless with friends unless they were female so this would be the same

mrsmuddlepies · 15/09/2019 11:23

Would you be happy going topless in front of your Father in Law?

katewhinesalot · 15/09/2019 11:27

Yes apply the same rules as to doing it infront of your fil. Also consider your mum in this. Also would he be embarrassed himself?

Actually after all that, it's probably easier not to

MT2017 · 15/09/2019 13:48

No, it's fine. And if he wears a thong you wouldn't feel awkward, would you?

Hazybobs · 15/10/2019 14:05

Does your mum go topless too? If so, and if you’re comfortable, why make a big deal out of it? If she doesn’t, perhaps speak with her and see if it’d bother her or him.

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