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Big birthday moan.

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OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 15/09/2019 07:53

So, it's my 60th this week. We do celebrate adult birthdays and big ones we tend to make a bit special, for example, we went abroad for a week to do Dhs hobby. Except I know nothing has been planned for me, no present either (he's been panic asking dd what I want) Dh was off this weekend and I thought he made have organised something. His db asked if we'd like to come down for the weekend. Ok, except it was for him to go to the match. I love my sil, and we did go out but she was clock watching and not really into it. But nice time. Went for a meal at night,again lovely. Here's my moan though. Next week Dh is going away hobbying with mates.(it's birding btw)This has been planned for months. In conversation last night he let slip that it's for one of his mates 60th. I didn't make a thing of it then, but jokingly said, "oh you can go away for xxxs birthday, but not mine!" Db and sil could see I was upset, but I made light of it. But I am upset, his trip next week has eaten up any spare cash we might have had for a treat, so I know nothing will magically appear. I don't have any friends who I can go away with. And I'm fucking OLD. But just thought I might get a bit of thoughtfulness from him. Sorry for the self indulgent moan, but I've not got anyone in RL I can show my disappointment to. Someone Pat me on my back and say "there there"

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hopeishere · 15/09/2019 07:58

That's is shite. Is he always crap about birthdays?

DH forgot mine once so now I just remind him and send him links to stuff I want.

SnowsInWater · 15/09/2019 08:30

That is truly crap 😐 I would be gutted too.

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 15/09/2019 09:02

He's usually really good (after a spectacularly mis judged one when he bought me a pile of stuff he wanted) he gets thoughtful, lovely gifts. For my 60th we went to Barcelona, he got a lovely handbag full of lovely little things. There's nothing I really need, those things I get for myself, we've always treated Christmas and birthdays as times to get or do non essentials. Hey ho, will have to suck it up.

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Myimaginarycathasfleas · 15/09/2019 09:11

Well first, I'm going to tell you that at 50+10 you are not old! (I presume your Barcelona trip was for your 50th?)

That is really thoughtless of him. Could your DD communicate your disappointment? He sounds like he usually comes up trumps, maybe there's time for him to do so again.

I would accept that the actual day is not going to be that thrilling, and instead concentrate on celebrating in the year of your 60th. Go big - cruise, luxury weekend break, something along those lines.

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