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DD knocked a tooth out, help me get some perspective please

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Treehouse55 · 12/09/2019 21:07

DD age 3 fell on the pavement a couple of days ago and managed to knock one of her front teeth out and chip the other. She's fine but I'm finding it really hard to come to terms with it! I know it's silly but I've been really tearful ever since.

Doesn't help that everyone I know in real life seems to be in a competition to say the most stupid things. One friend said "oh I'd feel devestated if I were you" and my mum said "there's always photoshop". Cheers guys.

I was hoping for something more along the lines of "you don't really notice it", "she'll get new ones in a couple of years anyway" etc etc.

Help me get some perspective please?

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NorthernChinchilla · 12/09/2019 21:51

DS managed to do both of his in the bath at 3. They bent backwards shudders and then he spent the next few months somehow knocking them on every surface/person possible till one fell out one day then the second the next (running into the back of another child )
We can at least date photos of him accurately but in the end it was no biggie- gap toothed was just him.
New adult teeth a bit wonky but that would have happened anyway given dental issues in our family, and he's signed up for orthodontics.
I felt a bit bosom-clutchy re. what's happened to my beautiful child but it'll settle, promise

Grobagsforever · 12/09/2019 21:55

Oh my DD did this exact thing when she was 3. She's 5 now and more beautiful because of her quirky smile. Her big tooth with plug the gap in time.

Your friends are dicks to say such things, are they normally so spiteful? Mine just assured me my daughter was still adorable

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Treehouse55 · 12/09/2019 22:15

Your friends are dicks to say such things, are they normally so spiteful? Mine just assured me my daughter was still adorable

The charitable side of me thinks maybe they were trying to empathise (I said "I feel so upset about it" and so they said they'd feel the same in my shoes thinking that would make me feel better...?) The more I think about it though the angrier I feel. Especially my friend whose DS has a birthmark. Imagine if I'd said to her "oh I'd feel devastated if I were you"!!! Obviously I wouldn't because it's a tiny part of him and he is still gorgeous.

I bet your daughter looks gorgeous too

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Blueberryblueberry · 12/09/2019 22:34

I think it's fine to be upset, it happened to my ds too and I cried loads! I obviously knew there were much worse thighs that could happen, but it's still upsetting and it's fine to feel sad. If it helps, in hindsight I'm not sure if it's just the shock at how they look different, or the fact that they are probably a bit swollen/sore/raw intially but it did seem to look a lot worse when it first happened. Once his mouth settled down, the chip isn't that noticeable and I'm just use to the gap from the missing tooth now. I've actually started to think it will take some getting use to when his adult teeth come through!

TheBullshitGoesOn · 12/09/2019 22:56

DC2's best friend at preschool knocked out her front teeth as a toddler. I saw this child at drop off and pick up several times a week and never noticed her missing teeth.

I only realised after many months when her mum told me about the original incident.

Stressedout10 · 12/09/2019 23:09

Dd knocked her front tooth out age 4 she ran face first into her gd knee he felt so guilty that the tooth fairy gave her £20

JazzyGG · 12/09/2019 23:12

I knocked my front tooth out age 18 months.

DD2 chipped her front teeth aged 2.

DD2 recently punched DD1 and knocked her baby tooth out aged 7.

It happens!!

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Treehouse55 · 13/09/2019 12:48

Thanks everyone your responses have really helped ❤

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spiderlight · 13/09/2019 13:22

I can understand how upsetting this would be, @Treehouse55, but it will be fine. Teeth are the one thing where you literally do get a second chance! My nephew had to have both his top front teeth removed after he and another boy ran smack into each other in the playground on their first day of Reception. His teeth were knocked right back and started to go black so the dentist removed them and he had a big gappy grin for years. His peers soon started losing teeth so he didn't stand out at all, and his adult teeth have come through absolutely perfect.

ChopinIn10Minuets · 13/09/2019 13:29

Stressedout10 perhaps at 4 your DD's front tooth might have been close to being ready to fall out anyway? Bit early but not unheard of - a friend of DD's had her first loose tooth in reception.

Stressedout10 · 13/09/2019 13:39

Yes it was starting to wobble but my dad wouldn't have any of it and insisted that she got the money to make up for it 🤷‍♀️

Stressedout10 · 13/09/2019 13:39

Should say dd was the only gc

Abstractedobstructed · 13/09/2019 13:43

My son bashed his mouth at nursery at 18 months. He didn't lose his tooth but one gradually went grey - killed the root. Luckily his front teeth fell out quite early and his adult teeth grew in perfect. There is no way you can tell there was ever an issue - apart from the slight scar on his lip.

parrotonthesofa · 13/09/2019 13:45

In the nicest possible way, you need to get a grip. They are her baby teeth, she is not permanently scarred and as other have said it is cute anyway.
My son did similar, I didn't give it a second thought, he was still beautiful. Spare a thought for people who or whose children have to live with life long scarring or disfigurement,

parrotonthesofa · 13/09/2019 13:59

Sorry that sounded harsher than I meant it to. Just life long disfigurement has affected my family so I guess it struck a chord. But that's irrelevant to your situation and you can't help the way you feel so sorry for my lack of empathy. Hope the adult tooth comes in soon.

PhantomErik · 13/09/2019 14:01

My ds knocked one of his front teeth out just after he'd turned 2. He also managed to give himself a black eye in the process & just a few days before he'd had an awful haircut which resulted in being shaved off!

He looked pretty dreadful to be honest & totally different to just days before.

I'll be honest it was months before I stopped noticing his missing tooth & I had to make a real effort not to stare at the gap but I got used to it. I cried A LOT (not in front of ds), I don't know why I found it hard because I'm not really a 'looks' kind of person. All 3 of my dc have odd chicken pox scars & I've never been upset about them.

His adult tooth grew in beautifully when he was 7.

Give yourself a break & ignore unhelpful comments!

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Treehouse55 · 13/09/2019 14:09

@parrotonthesofa not in the slightest! To be honest that's exactly the kind of comment I need, the ones I'm finding hard are all the "oh you must be SO upset" types. It makes me feel like it's a much bigger deal than it really is.

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parrotonthesofa · 13/09/2019 14:30

Ok good glad I didn't upset you, I felt mean after posting it!

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