Dna matches- contact?

[tomboytown]

Had our dna tested for ethnicity results.
Included are your dna matches that are in their database- 3rd cousins etc.
Would you contact them? I’m very interested, there’s one that is the equivalent of my parents cousin who we can’t figure out. All my grandparents had 10-12 siblings, but most we would know the name
Has anyone ever done this?
A friend was contacted and she found out her Dad had been adopted. He’d already passed so no idea if he knew.

I was hoping someone else was going to reply as I've been wondering the same myself. I have a giant black hole in my data surrounding my paternal family so am curious to see which side these people relate to.

DH had someone contact him, but he wasn't sure whether to reply. Mainly because they stated they think he must come from x family in a different country and as far as we know barring one or both of them having an adopted family member somewhere down the line DH has no connection to that country let alone that family name.

Maybe Ancestry.com needs to change to an opt-out system:

"We presume you DO NOT want to be contacted by anybody researching their family tree. Then you can't accidentally find out you were adopted or be talked to by strangers. Tick this box if actually you feel ok about strangers seeing you are related to them."

Yes i did!!!! DH has a massive family which i am so grateful to be part of now, but on my side i have 0 family accept my mum and her sister. My dad died when i were young and ive always been so intrigued to find family on his side. My mum never knew any of his family as they lived further up the country and my dad never wanted anything to do with them. So when he died, i were desperate to find out more. I ended up discovering he has two brothers with massive families (living in australia) and i also found a cousin of my dads who lived up in Glasgow. I were so nervous but i remember sitting there whils her number was dialling and finally i heard a womans voice answer. I explained who i was etc etc, and she were over joyed that i called and was more than happy to to meet up. We met up in the middle of both of us, and she told me things about my dad and his wonderful family that i never knew or even knew existed. We now write to eachother every year and exchange photos of the family. Best thing i ever did! The worst that can happen is that they wont want to talk to you.. but hey they dont know you anyway so what are you going to lose, but i bet theyd be more than happy to talk to you, theyd probably be interested themselves. Do it

I’m fine about being contacted
My husband didn’t have much family. His Dad died when he was young and his mum had fallen out with most of her family. He got a phone call in work one day, someone said he was his cousin. I was so excited and he just didn’t want to know, neither did his mum. Since his death, I found all this family tree stuff that this cousin had sent. I have been in contact, met a couple of them and we now know loads more about my son’s extended family. There was an old v smart Aunty who had found all the skeletons in the closet!