Disappointing birthday

[Napqueen1234]

It was my birthday yesterday (not a big one). I didn’t get any cards from any friends or family. Not one. Lots of messages, mum and GP transferred some money into my account for birthday but no cards. I always send cards to everyone (don’t expect gifts). I have a large family and 2 siblings. DP gave me presents from him and DD- two books and a jumper I sent him a link to two days ago as I knew he wouldn’t have got me anything. DD is 2 so I don’t get much chance to read. Please cheer me up and tell me I’m being ungrateful and I should be happy with what I have got. The presents from DP and DD are nice I’m just disappointment with friend and family and feeling lonely (and hormonal am pregnant too). Thanks :)

Happy birthday for yesterday birthday twin!

I had a birthday like that last year. Trust me this year was tonnes better. Although i only had two presents apart from the flowers drom DH. The one from SIL was actually something for DD which was and a box of milk tray from DD.

Hopefully next year will be better.

Better for you not better for me!

Thanks @mogtheexcellent and happy birthday for yesterday! Did you say anything to anyone or ask them about it? Or just magically got better the near year? Glad you had a lovely day and got chocolate

Happy birthday for yesterday!

At least you don't have to do the awkward 'how long do I leave my cards up for' thing!

It is a bit crap that your mom and GP didn't get cards but to be honest I didn't realise it was my brothers birthday today until his meal from a couple of years ago popped on my Facebook memories so don't feel too badly about it!

Sadly, I think the era of the card is over. If you got lots of messages it means people are thinking of you and letting you know.

I must admit that these days I do not send cards. I looked at the pile of cards we got for our birthdays and then thought about the fact that they went straight into the recycling.

So now on my birthday, I treasure the messages knowing I can go back and look at them again on my phone whenever I want to. That cheers me up no end.

Happy Birthday 🎉🎈!

I have started taking my birthday into my own hands so that way I am not disappointed if no one else remembers. This year i decided I would bring my dh and kids out for breakfast and I asked my eldest ds if he would babysit so I could see the latest Tarantino movie. That way I still got to have an enjoyable day and celebrate even if no one else was. In saying that I did get some nice presents and a few unexpected phone calls from family so I had a really lovely day but some years people are busy with other things and it's not nice to have an unhappy birthday because of unmet expectations. So my advice is to plan something nice for yourself and anything on top of that is a bonus.

@Napqueen1234N I had a strop with DH because nothing from his family. I dont care about presents really but a card is nice. He sent a reminder text a few days before.

Thanks all. That's the attitude I'm trying to take @Winesalot messages are still people thinking and I agree re: cards (we collectively have stopped Christmas cards to save paper etc. so perhaps its extending to birthdays!). And yes @MysweetAudrina that sounds good me and DP went for dinner last night which was nice. Maybe I just need to accept as you get older birthdays don't mean quite as much! Thanks for the kind messages :)

That is really sad, but at least now it saves you the bother of rushing round buying cards for everyone when you are busy with the new baby!! Treat others how they treat you!!

Maybe make the messages more memorable by including a photo of a shared memory or something that is important to the other person. Or if you have the skills, add a message and stickers to the pic.

Let’s make our digital birthday messages more memorable so that paper cards are not missed.

But yes, as I have got older birthdays have meant much less to me. I asked my husband to not buy me birthday presents when we hit our 30s because I don’t ‘need’ anything particularly. We just have a special meal, either out or at home and spend time together . I tell my DD that if she makes me card (very arty and they are collectible memories) I am perfectly happy with a hug. I once spent time with a friend who complained that her husband hadn’t spent enough on her for her birthday (he bought an expensive trinket that she did not need but insists on an expensive gift every year) and to be honest, my esteem of her dropped considerably.

It's mine today and I feel similar. Had 2 cards and 2 texts, but the thing that has really pissed me off is for 2 weeks I've 🐝 saying I'd really love a lie in on my birthday, but did I get it? No. Because 'D'h just had to get in to work early (because he's been in late every day because he couldn't be arsed to get out of bed). I'm annoyed with him. I don't ask for much, just for him to take DS to nursery this one time.

Happy birthday @Hmmmbop !

Forgot to add my PILs card finally arrived by post, just a card. They live 5 mins away. Whereas my step nan sent her card early and included some money so i can treat myself and a friend drove 20 mins and posted her card through my door.

The PILs lack of effort does not surprise me sadly l.

What a shame @Hmmmbop hope you enjoyed the rest of your day!
Interestingly I spoke to my mum who posted cards from her and for my grandparents on Monday which never arrived and similarly a friend message earlier saying did her moonpig card come which it didn't. Which is a bit strange as surely they would all be here by now?

I don’t seem to get cards except for big birthdays. Texts just seem to be the norm now. The dc make some but that’s it.