Dsd is 11, I've been in her life since she was 5. We have eow and 1 night in the week. All has been OK up to now, she's always been very high strung - once went blue because she was hyperventilating because of a headache - that kind of thing.
Her mother is difficult, but dsd is close to her. She frequently badmouths me and dh to dsd, deletes her dad's texts from dsds phone etc.
Last weekend, dsd texted dh out of the blue, saying she doesn't want to see him anymore, she hates him, she hates me, she hates our house, he's the worst daddy in the world and mummy is much better etc. He went round her mums to see what was going on, and she just screamed at him that she never wants to see him again, and a lot of other very hurtful things. Dh is in bits. They've always been so close. There's just no reason.
She's been worse since getting an iPhone from her mum on her birthday, is literally glued to it 24/7 and doesn't want to do anything else. Her personality has changed.
Dh doesn't know what to do. Does he just leave her? Make her come over as usual even if she doesn't want to? He's so hurt and I don't know what to do about this. I have a bs who is 9 so I don't have any experience with preteen girls.