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Is there a mattress that would allow my partner to be a big fidgit and not wake me up?

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0nTheEdge · 09/09/2019 18:16

My husband wakes me multiple times a night by rolling over, mild snoring and nicking covers. I have trouble sleeping as it is so this is breaking me. I am miserable and depressed through lack of sleep. I've tried earplugs, which I struggle to sleep in and could hear him but not the toddler in the next room when I needed to. We have a pocket sprung king sized mattress already. I have suggested two beds pushed next to each other to make a superking but he got really upset and said we might as well be divorced if we did that. I love him but I hate the fact he'd rather see me knackered and miserable than doing something that could help.
Is there a miracle mattress our there that smothers out heavy rolling or do we need to call a divorce lawyer? (Last bit light-hearted)

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SallyWD · 10/09/2019 11:41

I had exactly this problem with my DH and then like some others above we got a super king size bed with 2 single mattresses attached together. Having the two mattresses makes a huge difference as I'm barely aware of his moving about. The extra space is very important too.

SallyWD · 10/09/2019 11:44

Just seen your other post. I'd highly recommend upgrading to a super king size. We went from King size to super king size and its made such a difference. The extra size really gives you more space to spread out and be comfortable (and not be disturbed by your DH!)

Herocomplex · 10/09/2019 11:47

I’d go and get two duvets today, at least tonight might be better. It’s the norm in Scandi countries.

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RandomMess · 10/09/2019 11:53

We got two Ikea single mattress in/on one frame with a memory topper on top, plus 2 single duvets. Life so much better for us both!

RainOrSun · 10/09/2019 11:56

Dont get 2 single duvets! 2 doubles at a minimum.

Abkbjbjb · 10/09/2019 11:59

We have a super king bed but 2 separate single duvets! Cannot believe I never thought of 2 separate single mattresses!!! Genius!

Rufusthebewilderedreindeer · 10/09/2019 12:00

We have two single mattresses on a super king bed

Its awesome, one of the best things we ever did

NoNewsisGood · 10/09/2019 12:03

Foam is much better for this than springs. It doesn't 'ping' you around if a heavier person moves or gets up.

Bloomburger · 10/09/2019 12:06

We've a tempur one which is amazing and I can't feel DH get up or down at all.

CruCru · 10/09/2019 12:52

This is our mattress and it’s awesome. I really notice the difference if we have to sleep on another bed, I end up eddying in my husband’s wake.

Shoxfordian · 10/09/2019 13:12

We have separate bedrooms and we're very happy together. I sleep really well. Try it if you can op

0nTheEdge · 10/09/2019 14:15

The Tempur ones look expensive! I do quite like the idea of a memory foam one, I'm seeing some with lifetime warranties (although I know there are sometimes tricks with these to make them not as good as they sound). Does anyone have the Emma mattress? Does it muffle disturbance well enough? I told my husband he reminded me of a dolphin when they leap out of the water and turn midair before splashing back down. That's how he turns over in bed on a bad day...

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CruCru · 10/09/2019 14:44

To be honest, good mattresses are surprisingly expensive.

SallyWD · 10/09/2019 16:02

We got sprung mattresses but expensive ones with over 4000 springs per mattress so it gives loads of support. As we have the 2 single mattresses joined together I'm not aware of when my husband moves around on his mattress. You don't have to get memory foam. They felt really weird to me but I know others love them.

bluebeck · 10/09/2019 16:44

I have suggested two beds pushed next to each other to make a superking but he got really upset and said we might as well be divorced if we did that.

I would call his bluff! What a pratt he is!

I don't think any kind of mattress is going to change your sleepless nights, particularly with regards to snoring Confused

Do you have a spare room?

Doodlebug5 · 10/09/2019 17:14

I've got a tempur and I dont know my DP turns at all. It's well worth the money

soberfabulous · 10/09/2019 17:24

If you get a super king it is two singles inside a zipped up cover. Best thing ever and has saved my marriage!

NearlyGranny · 10/09/2019 17:41

At a hotel in Copenhagen we had two 3ft divan that zipped together and separate single duvets. It was bliss! I would have copied the idea if our bedroom were a smidge bigger.

Your DH could do his Seaworld impressions all night and you'd be none the wiser.

Have you served up krill for his breakfast yet?

0nTheEdge · 11/09/2019 09:45

I think our bedroom is too small for a superking, although it does sound amazing! I think we need to try out a few in real life when we get chance as some people don't like memory foam ones and it's expensive to try out on a whim. I've slept a tiny bit better the last couple of nights so I'm not feeling as low. Hopefully we can try some at weekend and then make a decision as I've spent so many hours looking at hybrids online.

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OhLookHeKickedTheBall · 11/09/2019 09:52

I'm the fidget and duvet stealer, dh is the snorer, I'm the lighter sleeper here!

We found a memory foam mattress to be the best thing not not bounce him out of bed when I toss and turn. Sadly it means he sleeps better and I can't purposely accidentally bounce him out of bed while he's keeping me awake.

OhLookHeKickedTheBall · 11/09/2019 09:53

Oh, and dh has a spare duvet in case I've stolen it all and I have an extra blanket for when it's colder as we operate two different temperature zones normally.

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