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Throughly fed up!

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PillBox101 · 09/09/2019 11:37

Long story short. After a fall it has been discovered that DD2 has what the orthopaedic doctor termed a ‘severe birth defect’ in her hips. She has been referred to Sheffield Children’s Hospital and has an appointment tomorrow.
DD2 is in a wheelchair unable to weight bear for anything longer than going to the bathroom on crutches.

She’s fed up, I’m fed up, DH is fed up. As she’s unable to go back to school yet (she should have been back last week) I promised her a day out to the next nearest city to us. It is a direct bus ride of just over an hour.
The bus we decided to get was busy but we could fit on until not one but two parents with pushchairs got on and refused to collapse them, despite the bus driver asking them. The other passengers also voiced their opinion that they should collapse them or at least one of them could so DD and I could fit on.
They got aggressive with the driver and the other passengers. I don’t blame the driver, he did what he could and IMO was stuck between a rock and a hard place.

We waited the hour for the next bus and we are now on it.

I don’t even know why I’m writing this other than to say I’m absolutely, thoroughly fed up. I want to feel anger but all I feel is resignation that there are some people out there that can’t for a moment be kind enough to help out a fellow human being.

And yes I understand that I don’t know what they have going on in their lives. I just feel so bad for DD, she has been through so much in her 10 short years, with several operations and several disabilities.
My own physical disabilities thrown in to the mix make it harder on top of my mental ill health.
Sad

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ErrolTheDragon · 09/09/2019 11:43

Bloody hell. That's awful. The bus companies really need to put firm guidelines in place that collapsible pushchairs must be collapsed if the driver says so.

I hope the rest of your day goes better, much better. Thanks

PillBox101 · 09/09/2019 11:56

Thank you.
I’m going to take DD for lunch once we get there.

The guilt I feel right now is immense. I’m
So used to stuff like this happening to me and I’m so sad that DD is having to deal with it as well.

It could be worse and in a way we’re lucky because DD is so strong, she’s had to be.

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ErrolTheDragon · 09/09/2019 12:03

It's not your fault some people are selfish arseholes.

mbosnz · 09/09/2019 12:04

DD is also lucky because she has a Mum that completely and utterly gets her situation, understands it from the inside out, and empathises and sympathises.

I'm sad that you feel guilt. I kind of understand. I remember my girls being tested for kidney reflux, and I was floored when I found out they did have it, because that came from my side of the family.

It sucks that some people (and sorry, I'm getting really tired of poor behaviour being 'excused' on the basis that maybe they have something else going on in their lives that justifies them behaving like a selfish arsehole) can't see beyond their noses, and try to behave with just one little modicum of consideration for a person clearly in strife.

I hope you guys manage to enjoy your day out. You deserve and need to. Smile

Knittedfairies · 09/09/2019 12:04

That's disgraceful behaviour by the two parents with pushchairs. I hope you have a lovely day with your daughter.

KatherineJaneway · 09/09/2019 12:15

That is awful!

PillBox101 · 09/09/2019 12:20

Thank you lovelies.

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