Your OH’s sweet gestures towards his mum?

[MrsNotNice]

What kind of things does your DH do for his mum that makes you feel awwww he is a loyal son. That you feel Make her feel appreciated and honoured in his life? Or you feel proud and think to yourself “would love for my sons to treat me this way when I’m older”.

What sort of things are you willing to support him build in his relationship with his mother? Do you find your have to remind him of how to be a “caring son?”

Im just being nosey. Some men are a bit conditioned to only do things when asked and most of the time mothers don’t feel they can ask once their son is committed to another women because they’re scared to step on toes, so ends up feeling neglected and bitter. It’s my theory lol.

I feel as daughters -generically speaking- it is easier to still go out of our way for our parents without having our loyalties to our marriage questioned. So just want to hear what sons get up to.

I’m LC with my in laws. Because they took it out on me horrendously even though I had not stood in their way, but perhaps my presence was an obstacle to their hopes from their son. So just trying to hear it from the other side.

When my lovely m.i.l was alive my DH used to take her shopping to the supermarket on a Saturday morning, then make lunch for them both. He used to mow her lawns,decorate etc and threaten to throw her under the next passing bus if she didn't behave. ( Banter )
My adult son visits with and without his wife and the grandkids a couple of times a week, eats all the biscuits and tells me off for various things, in a nice way.
He sorts our cars out ( he's a mechanic ) and yesterday told me off for not eating all my tea. He said I couldn't have my yoghurt until I'd eaten all of my sandwich 😂

Beep that put a tear in my eye. I was almost starting to feel like it’s impossible.

That’s lovely. Can I pm you?

Sure 🙂

DH's DF died when he was a teenager. Of course, the family were devastated. There was DH, 15, his brother 17 & sister only 3. Instead of pulling up her big girl pants & getting on with things his mum left it all to DH. DH arranged his own DF's funeral, brought up his 3-year-old sister as if she were his own. Generally wiped everyones arses & was used & abused until he met me, (a single mum with 2 DC, but financially secure & mortgage-free) at 29. The family threw all their toys out of the pram at the loss of their meal ticket, blamed me as a gold-digging single mum. Ridiculous under the circumstances. It was me taking the financial risk.

Things really kicked off before we moved in together with his brother & just before our wedding with his sister, who for some reason expected to be a bridesmaid. True colours were shown all around & the mother believes the lies rather than DH that wasted over half his life on them all. We have been NC for almost 5 years. I encourage DH to send his mum a card at birthdays etc, (because I lost my DM & refuse to be involved in further destruction of their relationship) but that is about it. Sad really. All I wanted was to join their family, but jealousy, greed, selfishness & bitterness is rife in that family!

My partner doesn't do anything nice tbh his mum is not maternal and his family ain't close like that. I tried but my mil is horrid and it's me that use get him to go see her but I don't now. Before I got with him his dad got him drop out school to work with him and then he wasn't get paid For it up until our daughter was born 6 years ago cause I went mad.

My OH is lovely to his mum and she is just a lovely person too. She raised her two kids as a single mum while juggling a career. I think she is a total hero.

He buys his mum flowers, calls her at least 2-3 times a week (way more than I call my parents). In November he is taking her away on holiday too. Just the two of them (encouraged by me). She had some sad news this year and needs the break, OH has loads of holiday left, I don't so he may as well use it for something good. We are even thinking of moving to be closer to her.

I was reading Michael Caine's autobiography and he said that one day a journalist was interviewing his wife for an article on her. He overheard the journalist ask what made Shakira Caine want to marry him. He was surprised by her answer, because she said that she was impressed by the way he treated his Mum.