Seriously

[Harleyisme]

I gave up i can't do this i just want to curl up in a ball and cry

Tell us what is going on. Maybe we can chat you to a better place?

Why, what's happened?

To had context i suffer from anxiety badly have aspergers syndrome.
I have a 15 and 5 year old with autism and bad anxiety.

Today is day 3 of back to school with 5 year old its worse than ever screaming shouting had drag him into school. Am in argue.wnts with head teacher as he has and always had incontinence issues he has a intermit care plan but school arent supporting him with toileting at all and have told me they want me to stpp talking to him about toilting yet they won't comminicate with me about it and ds has come home in a right mess the last 2 days. Got him in school eventually this morning but couldn't geg his unifom on.
Ds 15 is 2 days into a specialist collage course and is refusing to go.
I sent a pip mandatory redecision in and the extra paper work i sent was my autism assessment from diagnosis and my medical history with my meds on it apparently the evidence i proved is contradictory of my medical history and k go out with support from my parents and family and also my apsegers is being dealt with 3 weeks of cbt which is a lie i had cbt for anxiety but because i have no specilaist involved for my sensory or anxiety issues theres are not isuues.

I am a utter failure i can't support for myself or my children

I ment i can't get the support that anyone needs

None of the above is your fault for a start. These things are very tricky to sort out and everything snowballs into everything else. I’m not familiar with the agencies and assessments involved in your various cases but hopefully someone can give you some good advice.

I think anyone with all that going on would want to curl up in a ball and cry. that sounds really tough sorry.

I guess all we can try do is deal with the issues one by one. My sil is a primary teacher and when she had the class with younger ones she always had a few kids with toilet issues your little one is only 5, maybe school needs the class to settle down and then they can try work with you better on this, in meantime can you get pull ups or similar so the poor child doesn't have to come home in a state. think all you can try do at moment is focus on getting them to school and being less anxious about that don't worry about uniform. I know different schools will have different plans but my nephew with aspergers was allowed ware a plain tracksuit in navy or grey for two years when he couldn't deal with uniform. again at only 5 he may decide over time to adopt elements of the uniform, pick your fight.

why has ds refused to go today, is he able to explain what the issue is?

pip I have no experience but im sure others have ideas here for you.

School wont have him in a pullup now only underwear. They also want uniform they aren't very good at adjustments.

Ds 15 is saying hes ill i think thats his anxiety but he won't have it thankfully collage have been brilliant.