So I was single, and met a married woman, they had only recently seperated and it took we a few months before I could fully let my guard down to this woman as I've been hurt in the past. She is an amazing has already got kids and seem to live a great life but things just not have been that way. We both had ups and downs I didn't know where I stood but we would both just come together. We both know how important it is that kids live in a stable environment and that the relationship with their father continues. However things become complicated as we found out that she was pregnant, I have always wanted to be involved and willing to help in any way, but ever since the pregnancy I've been allowed to two scans and the ex, who is still the husband has become so much more involved than I anticipated, so much so that things have been bought for the baby, I've tried not to object, but I always thought of having my first child that even under these circumstances we would buy things together, I've allowed her to control the situation in fear of upsetting however seems that is all I do. I've not been able to move out from my parents home as there have been delays. I'm not rich but can get by and always offered to try pay towards but it is declined which is frustration. I don't really know what I am doing as I'm a first time father but feel that I might never do so in this case as I've been frozen out. What I understood to be love and a possible relationship has seemed to disappear. I understand it was not wise to get involved with marriages and I tried my best to be logically but love doesn't act that way. I care about her and her kids and the baby that is about to be, I even care about the husband in trying to make this all work for all the children.
This all seems so overwhelming that I really don't know where to turn. I can't speak to my mum as she continually tries to sabotage the relationship with the woman who is pregnant with our child, even in the past saying unkind words to her and the ex(husband) so I basically have no one to really talk to, whilst I don't live with my parents it's still belongs to them where I live and live alone. It doesn't seem appropriate for me to move in with her as it's the husbands house and wouldn't move in unless I could buy him out, but again I don't have that means of income to do so. She is now due very soon and doesn't look like I'll be able to be at the birth but the husband I understand will be, i don't even know how I should feel about that, as I just want both her and the baby to be healthy.