So embarrassed by my 4 year olds behaviour

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Had to drag her out of a soft play party this afternoon for smacking other children. Before this she had been following other kids and roaring in their faces. I know all kids have their moments but my child is that child and I'm mortified.

I suspect she is on the autistic spectrum as there is a family history and school nursery have made a referral to the Ed psych as although she's at age related or above for everything else she's behind socially.

I'm so embarrassed that I don't want to take her anywhere but then I think how will she ever learn if I don't?

My 3 year old Ds can be THAT child. He's gotten better but is still a terror. God I love him but he drives me mad.

for both of us

My child was that child too op. I had to watch him like a hawk at toddler groups and soft play as if I turned my back or took my eyes off him, he'd be slapping another child or snatching a toy off of them. When he first started nursery, he would have regular meltdowns if he didn't get what he wanted. He was assessed by the senco and they said they'd keep an eye on his behaviour. I found him a really hard toddler.
He is now 6 and about to go up to year 2 and he is such a lovely, polite well behaved boy (he still has his moments, obviously!) You would never have guessed that he was such a terrible toddler!! All I can say is that make sure you're on her and pull her up on everything, being firm and giving consequences for poor behaviour, that's what I did and it finally paid off!!

I also had one like that! Now 7 and a little socially naive and hot-headed still but miiiiiiiles better. Totally understand the wish to hide, though!

I dragged my niece out by her leg once, down the slide and across the rope bridge, screaming like a banshee the whole way. She was 7 and I'd just caught her for the second time pushing a child backwards into the ball pit and telling her that no one wanted to play with her because she was a baby. She ignored the warning, ignored the instruction to come out and called my bluff, thinking I wouldn't come in there and get her. Turns out I'm more nimble than she thought 😂 it wasn't a long chase and I got a nod of respect from another parent for my swift negotiation of the climbing wall and tunnel.

Thank you, its nice to know I'm not alone (although obviously not nice for you-it's not a club you want to be in, is it?!)

Very pleased to hear things have improved too.

Re boundaries and being firm I do find this very difficult as she doesn't give a shit. So if for example I say a toy will be taken away she'll just say fine then, get it and put it in the bin herself!