Trying to save a marriage.

[rossboy]

Hi.
I met someone in March 2017 on Match.com. We got married in April 2018. There has been a problem throughout the relationship. My wife has a drinking problem for 20 years. Drinking 2 bottles of white wine every other night. Which l believe will be over the drink drive limit. I thought she would have cutted down since last August when she nearly died. She has 2 children, 9 and 18 by different fathers,(not a problem). I had reported to the police over the drink driving. My concern was her welfare and 9 year son in the back. It started to make me down and have moved out a few times since New Year. We had been to counseling. In July, she said it was over and kicked me outmThis was due to me being down and spending a day in bed. When l left, l made a tough decision to report to Social Services over the drinking and hitting her child over the head. We have both started divorce proceedings. I don't want a divorce and she not 100% sure. We have slept together. She says l have to repair damage l have caused by contacting Social Services. Do you think there is a future? Was l wrong to contact SS. It was safeguarding both her and the kids. I love her still. What advice?

You have no future as long as she drinks. Don't even entertain getting back until she has tried to sort this out for a very long time. Many months if not a year of her being dry.

2 bottles will be well over the limit. She could kill herself and her DC or others.

Thanks Magoria. It's just l don't want to walk away. I feel like l am letting the boys down. The youngest is missing me and looking out for me on the road, (l am a bus driver).

What did SS say?

Agree with Magoria.

Is the younger boy's father in his life at all? If not (or even anyway), could you continue to be his step-parent?

SS did not say much. Though she said l was controlling to them. They would try and told to the youngest if she let them. There would be a file opened for future incidents. Both fathers are in their lives. My wife is not a bad person. Just the drink. She had a rough early life. First boyfriend killed himself when she was 16. Sexual abused by StepGrandad at 10. Couple of blokes from previous relationships took her for 20K each. Youngest Father had a affair when she was pregnant with him. I was first bloke she wanted to marry.