Your 'one who got away'... just seen mine on Tinder

[ThePhoneIsGoingOutTheWindow]

It was a stupid fling and he was so not ready for a relationship I'd have married him . Anyway, picked myself up and life went on.

And now I've seen him on Tinder

And you swiped right????

Somebody who would have been completely unsuitable long term - but for some reason he really got me and it was lovely. With him two months when he said he didn't see it working out and that hurt more than when i broke up with somebody of two years. Next relationship i met my husband and it just came together but honestly would be together now if he never chose to end it glad he did though.

Mine might sound naff as I am now 48! I had a boyfriend in my last year of senior school who was almost perfect! He was so kind and funny. But he wasn’t very cool and my friends took the piss so being a twatty 15 year old I broke up with him.

I see him around occasionally. I have no idea what he is like now but I get a bit of a flutter every time I see him!!

Are you going to message him??

Mine was fresh from being dumped by his childhood sweetheart and broken by it - I ended up counselling him for weeks before he finally admitted he wasn’t ready for anything new.

Saw a mutual friend recently and she told me he’s currently single. Sigh. I would totally go there again.

Mine got away, a long way away. We met at uni, except he was at art college. He went to the USA, kept in touch for a bit, then nothing. I think of him still.

Are you now single? If so you just know you need to do!

Did you swipe right?!

Mine was this person I met during my gap year. It was very intense from the start as this person literally moved into my hotel room on Day 2! What followed was 9+ months of spending nearly every waking moment together through East Asia, Europe, and North America. It wasn't all sunshine and rainbows though because when we argued, it really became a button-pushing contest between 2 people who just wouldn't back down.

We eventually came back home and found out that we were fundamentally incompatible in the context of our regular lives. Sometimes I still wonder if we could've made it work if our dreams were a little different or if we tried a little harder to find some sort of compromise. But alas.

I married mine after we didn't speak for quite a few years, then I sent him a text completely randomly asking how he was. We were married 54 weeks later...

@ThePhoneIsGoingOutTheWindow did you swipe right??

I nearly threw my phone out of the window

I am considering buying the membership that lets you see who has liked you though, in case he’s liked me.

I feel like a lovesick teenager 😭

Mike's on social media and telly a fair bit for his job. Still hot as fuck.

I once met a lovely woman I went out with for a 10 months, she was the nicest kindest person I could ever hope to meet. Eventually I had to break things off because I just didn't love her the way she deserved, and not a day goes by that I don't think I'm a damn fool for not falling in love with her - I'll never find anyone half as nice.

This is going to be the most boring advice ever but if I were you, I'd swipe right and just see what he does. If he swipes right as well, great. If not, at least you have a definite answer and no longer have to sit around in a state of ambiguity!

My one-that-got-away is someone I've never even kissed. We definitely both liked each other at uni, but the powers that be just didn't let it happen. We even held hands one night, but fate intervened. You honestly couldn't have made that shit up.

He was just a lovely bloke, the type you couldn't have been a bitch to and I definitely think (from what I know now about myself) that I could have loved him. He wasn't my usual type at the time.

Anyway, I've seen him twice in the last 15-16 years or so. The first time was in a club back in our uni city (I was back visiting friends) and the only thing he said was "look, Never, I'm not in uni city anymore". And I said "neither am i".

The last time I saw him was by total chance one morning after my DC were born, prob 8 years ago. We walked up a street together, completely oddly and neither of us asked what was going on with each other's lives.

I found out years later (Facebook linked us) that he got married to a girl that looks like me the same month I married my lovely dh (who is a bit like him personality wise). He has 2 girls. I have 2 boys. Roughly same ages.

I'm so glad we never kissed.

I had the most enormous and innocent crush as a teenager. I loved him in the simplest and most uncomplicated way. For 4 years, I yearned for him. We were v close friends and both shy, inexperienced. I used to dream of holding his hand ffs and every day we sat together at school, shared lunch and had a lovely, enduring friendship. I didn't want to ruin it and he never made a move so clearly wasn't interested. Aged 18, I had a stern word with myself and decided I needed to start dating. Two days later I met DH and days after that, friend started dating for the first time.

Two years later, he admitted that he'd been "irrevocably and completely" in love with me since the age of 12 and was heartbroken when I met DH. We were both in serious relationships.

We're still friends 20 years later. I wouldn't change my life for a moment but I wish I'd held his hand.

Please swipe right!!! This could be fate

You've got nothing to lose

I agree, swipe right!

He's not liked me

For the love of God woman SWIPE RIGHT!!

He might not have seen you yet?? Not sure how tinder works.

Mine showed me his bits, age 13. I had a thing for his older brother who was actually a bit full of himself.
My lovely flashed made it very obvious that he liked me but I wasn’t interested. Until age 18 I suddenly ‘saw’ him for the first time. I was cripplingly shy though and never said a word. By this time I assumed that he had outgrown his crush.
Occasionally he would talk about marriage and babies. In a hypothetical way but I always wondered. Something felt right.
Nothing ever happened and we lost contact.

Three years ago, married and heavily pregnant, I bumped into him in town. He laughed and said that he had been madly in love with me most of our teenage years and had the strangest feeling that I would have his children.

*flasher

I got engaged to mine then it fell apart while we were in different unis. I was mostly to blame. Right man wrong time.

It's been less than an hour? Wait and see.

I don't think I have one which got away

I have one.

I met him in college. He was FIT: douchbag chin strap beard, Vote Pedro t shirts and a glittery drum set. We were in the same small social group so would spend every minute at college together, being dicks and mucking about. I flirted with him like mad and thought he might have too. But our single-hood never lined up. I always wanted to tell him, because if he liked me too I would have dumped my boyfriend for him, but I was never brave enough. I still kick myself now, and I left college 13 years ago.
We kept in touch for a few years, making jokes about moving in to each others under stairs cupboards, and performing music (a college thing) sometimes, but drifted apart when I got married (to a guy that looks a lot like him) . I saw him a few years later in traffic and he tweeted later about seeing something painful from his past. I always wonder if he meant me but I doubt it. Sometimes I think about sending him a message to tell him how I still crush on him etc, but I'm still married so what good would come of it 🤷‍♀️ he is definitely my what if guy. He's still gorgeous.

I wonder if he will swipe on you, op 😮