Small cell long cancer

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Hello everyone
My Dad has just been diagnosed and we’re all in shock really.
Those who are going through this, or have been through it what can we expect?
And what can I do to help him?

Urgh should really preview before I post. Lung, not long!

Anyone ?

Hi OP. Maybe you'll get more responses in Chat? Ask to have the thread moved as this board isn't as fast moving or heavily frequented I don't think.

Thank you, have reported and asked to move.

My df had this cancer at 59 years old although it wasn't a happy ending that you would like to hear sorry. It was very aggressive and he had lots of chemo very quickly after diagnosis (started with 2 weeks). The primary tumour responded really well but it spread everywhere during the breaks in treatment. He was well (but very breathless and therefore not very mobile as only on 1 lung) for 6 months but unfortunately deterioted very rapidly in the last 2 weeks of his life as it had spread to his bones and brain.
The shock is normal and we as a family found everything changed so quickly we never really moved on from it. It was definately a rollercoaster journey.
Best wishes to your df and you all.x

Thank you Floonthewall, everything seems to be moving very quickly. My mum is saying ‘it will all be ok’ but I know that it’s more likely to not be ok and I want to do everything I can to help my parents and get ready to potentially have my mum move in with me if my dad doesn’t make it.
I’m sorry for your loss

My folks were both in denial and figured it would be ok. We just took their lead as was not for us to make decisions for them. I tended to do more practical stuff as i felt i/we needed to have information. The cancer research site was good but please don't google. I sorted PIP which was awarded just before he died and had some difficult conversations when he lost the ability to manage his own meds. Looking back he should have had more pain relief earlier but at the time he decided he would need it later and had none.
I would also avoid moving your mum too quickly should the worst happen. We did this, although mum was only mid 50's and i think made her grief worse long term, she lost alot of their belongings and caused huge issues with my brother who no longer speaks to her or us. Its taken 4 years to settle down and she ended up moving back to her old house anyway.
Look after yourselves and each other, say what you need as soon as you can and take photo's together.
Its a rollercoaster of a journey whatever happens.