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DH hasn't come home from night out

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meepmoop · 31/08/2019 05:06

Gah can't believe I'm writing this thread.

DH went out on a leaving do last night, I've just woken up and he's not come home. His phone is flat and I'm trying not to panic.

This is not like him and he doesn't go out a lot. I think this is the second time in 10years but last time I could get hold of him.

He's got work at 8.30 so logically he will turn up by then but it's hard not to think something bad has happened

Don't really know what to do

OP posts:
TheoriginalLEM · 31/08/2019 05:10

Call one of his friends he was out with?

He'll be asleep on someone's sofa

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meepmoop · 31/08/2019 05:13

I don't have their numbers annoyingly as they are work people

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666onmyhead · 31/08/2019 05:22

Try not to worry.the odds are he's ok but out of phone charge and asleep somewhere, maybe somewhere near or in route to work. sounds daft but have you actually checked your sofa ? He might not have wanted to wAle you by coming up to bed ?

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meepmoop · 31/08/2019 05:31

Ive checked the sofa and the toilets!

Yeah he must be at someone's house. he was getting a train home so hopefully hasn't fallen asleep and is now in London.

I'm also kinda annoyed I woke up as now I can't get back to sleep.

OP posts:
AliciaQuays · 31/08/2019 05:40

No reason not to call

avocadoincident · 31/08/2019 05:52

He's out of practise and has fallen asleep somewhere like a train, McDonald's or friend's sofa.

If it's a very very rare occurrence I wouldn't be too cross. (But I'd be a bit cross and milk it a bit when he returns)...which he will

Greyworm · 31/08/2019 05:58

Does he know your number off by heart? I'm sure he'll call soon. (maybe he's up now and doesn't want to wake you) If he's hungover and stuck in London I imagine a bit of sympathy will go a long way! Especially if he can't handle drinking and not used to it and he probably feels daft now.
He may have lost his keys and asleep on porch not wanting to wake you? Happened to my friends dh.

AdoreTheBeach · 31/08/2019 06:06

I hope he’ll be ok and it is a case of not being used to drinking, had a few too many and I sleeping in a friend’s Couch.

However, I don’t think sympathy is the first think he gets when he gets home. A text or call that he wasn’t coming home should’ve been done, even if that meant a friend sending a message via social media messaging if his phone died.

It’s disrespectful to you to not even let you know. If you’d woken up earlier, you’d be fairly frantic by now.

TooGood2BeFalse · 31/08/2019 06:07

Definitely on someone's sofa OP.Try and doze off if you can, you'll be mad when he turns up and you realise you're tired for no reason.

CherryPlum · 31/08/2019 06:09

I agree he's probably fallen asleep at someone's house, how annoying. He might be in a deep sleep so might not ring you for a while, you'll need to distract yourself for a bit while you wait for him to ring. I'd be really annoyed and also very glad that it doesn't happen regularly.

Greyworm · 31/08/2019 06:14

OK my sympathy comment is unrealistic 😂 I think if it was me who'd gone out and ended up hungover (I don't drink) I would really like some sympathy for being so stupid and I hope id put myself in dh's shoes if he did this. But in reality if my dh did this, yeah I would probably be furious. Have you checked outside OP?

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meepmoop · 31/08/2019 06:56

No sign of him yet, I managed to get another hour in but DS is awake now.

I'm not angry I just want to know where he is. I thought he might be back by now.

How long do I leave it until I panic a bit more

OP posts:
Scarydinosaurs · 31/08/2019 06:58

Does he have find my iPhone? Could you check to see last location?

What was the last you heard from him?

WishUponAStar88 · 31/08/2019 06:59

Could you find his work friends on Facebook and message them?

BuildBuildings · 31/08/2019 07:05

This would panic me too. Is he friends with any people from work on social media? Could you try to get in touch with them? If he's due at work at 8.30 it's only another hour and a half so could you call his work then?

Mary1935 · 31/08/2019 07:14

Oh how worrying - if he’s not back for work I’d start trying to locate colleagues or call his work and see if anyone knows anything.

Morgan12 · 31/08/2019 07:18

Probably over did it and fell asleep. Hope he is home soon.

millmoo · 31/08/2019 07:20

How worrying especially if it’s out of character and he has work soon.
Hopefully he’ll turn up soon Flowers

expatinspain · 31/08/2019 07:33

Hope he turns up OP x

Ilikethisone · 31/08/2019 07:35

I would be worried too.

Is his work somewhere you can call? Call there at 8.30am and see if he turns up there.

bigchris · 31/08/2019 07:35

I'd be going ballistic when you next see him !

HarrySnotter · 31/08/2019 07:36

What time does he realistically need to be home by to shower/get ready for work?

MiddleClassProblem · 31/08/2019 07:38

I’m a worrier and would be worried by now. What time does he normally leave for work with an 8:30 start?

Sodamncaughtinthemiddle · 31/08/2019 07:38

If its out of character I would be worried
Did you hear from him when he was out before you went to sleep
When was last contact
What time would be need to be home to get ready for work

StealthPolarBear · 31/08/2019 07:40

If it was a leaving do does that mean most of the people he was out with will also be at work today?

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