When did your LO start sleeping through the night?

[Platypusmama]

Posted on behaviour and development but thought I'd try here as well.

I have a 14 month old dd who still wakes to breastfeed anywhere between 3-6 times a night. I'm so unbelievably exhausted I feel like I'm going to keel over.

Starting back at school next week and dd is starting at nursery but I can't even bare the thought of trying to balance studying and coursework as well as the house on barely any sleep. My OH is away most of the time for work so I'm kind of on my own a lot.

Please tell me there's relief coming soon?!? I have nothing against sleep training but I just can't do it. Dd is in a floor bed so would just come and find me anyway

19 months after sleep training, sorry! DS was waking so often, it was awful, we were on our knees with exhaustion (we both worked full time). Life now is indescribably better!

If you're dead against sleep training (I was too - I bitterly regret the wasted zombie months!) you could try night weaning. Your DH will need to step up so pick a week when he's home, and it'll be really hard (expect a few very tough nights) but if you stick to your guns and comfort rather than give in and feed you might knock the night waking on the head.

Around 15 months (also around the time I stopped breastfeeding) she does still wake occasionally now at 16 months but I'd say about twice in the last month which I can definitely live with.

DD2 was 4 before she started routinely sleeping through. She is now 4.10, and this week is back to waking several times a night for no apparent reason again. If it's relevant, she was breastfed until the week she turned 3 when she decided to stop, but not every night because I was at work at bedtime 2-3 nights a week.
My memory is ruined by sleep deprivation (I also work 13hr day shifts and 12hr night shifts, often both in the same week so have been incredibly lacking in sleep for the past 5 yrs) and I now don't know how old DD1 was, but surely about 2, because there is no way I could have considered another baby while dealing with a non-sleeping child like DD2.

Around 1 year - 15 months when I stopped breastfeeding through the night . Although 4 year old still wakes some nights .

The odd occasion around 18 months and reliably around second birthday.

About 16months, he is 19 months now and still wakes the odd night or gets up at 4am but things are better, unfortunately I have a newborn too so it's all started again

About 12 months for the first and from day 1 for the second (he's lazy).

Didn't do anything different with either but I was extremely lucky with ds2!

My almost 5 month old is BF and wakes max twice an night for a feed. Took about 3 nights controlled crying. Best thing we've done!

4 weeks old, he's now 16 months and the only time he wakes up in the night is when he's poorly, I get 6/7pm until 6/7am most nights x

That sounds exhausting. Both of mine were around 9 months, it tied in with an increase in eating. I gave my youngest a dummy (for cot use only) at 7 months to stop the night time comfort feeding. The dummy stayed until his second birthday and worked a treat.

Dc1 about weeks ( I know) dc2 about 6 months dc3 about 13 months. There will be no dc4! Dc3 slept through the night when we taught her to fall asleep not being cuddled ( the previous 2 had always been able to fall asleep put down awake iyswim, not rocked or fed to sleep but she was different) we sat by the cot stroking her hair etc when necessary instead and stayed there till she fell asleep. I don't know if that would help?

At around 8-10 months when I night weaned.

After that age you don't have to breastfeed all night. Obviously absolutely fine if you want to, but if you would rather sleep then that's fine too.

About 6 to 8 weeks!

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but 6 years old. It nearly killed me!!

He is 5.....we are still waiting...

10 months for my DD when she started nursery. Not every night at first but god even a full nights sleep a few times a week made such a massive difference in how I felt. And we have had blips. But she’s 2 now and pretty much a dead cert she will sleep 7-7.

Don't hate me, 6weeks. Having baby number 2 and it's going to be a shock if she's not a sleeper 😂

Do they have a dummy? Sounds like u might be the human dummy and that's why they are feeding through the night still, for comfort.

3 1/2 and only just starting to sleep through the night - perhaps 2/3 times a week 🥳
(Apparently i didn't sleep through until I was 4 and a colleague told me children don't naturally sleep through until 7 years - I nearly cried at my desk!)

By the way DC was weaned off breast feeding at about 3 months so wasn't waking in the night for that. DC is a cuddly child and usually comes in for "snuggles" and also likes to sleep holding my hair......DH started shaving his head a year ago (tactical move??) so DC only seeks me out for middle of the night visits! 🤦‍♀️😬

I was going to say 6 weeks too. I didn’t tell people IRL at the time. All three of mine have always been good sleepers, DD1 could sleep through parties and fireworks.

Oh my! To all of you mamas who have 3+ year olds who still wake, I'm sending you all the coffee!

Just out of curiosity, what sleep training did everyone use that wasn't CC or CIO? I've tried a method where I sat with her and every time she got up I gently lay her back down with kisses and cuddles, she would eventually fall asleep after about 1 hr. I'm so tired I just stopped as it didn't seem to help and continued with the feeding to sleep.

I was v cocky about my floor bed, thinking that dd would stay in bed because she was used to it from birth. Oh lord! I had no idea I would have a one year old just strolling into my room at night. Gave me a pretty big fright the first time! 😂

Op that's the method we used, stick with it is my advice.

15 months. i weaned at 20 months. and i did CC and CIO and it worked amazingly.

One phase was around 5-7 months, then the top teeth came through and we were awake each night for hours, when that was over and she started sleeping again she would only go until 5am.

Then the one year growth spur and it was hell again. Plus the first molars came. And the next set, and the next growth spur.

Breastfeeding or Formular, weaning or not, didn’t make a. It of difference.

She is now 12 and we have long lie ins until 9-10am since a year or so, You will get there, it will just take time

We tried everything but I had to go back to work full time when DC was 5 months old so for me and DH just to be able to function at work we took the path of least resistance - if DC wanted to come in with us then that's what happened

We figured DC only needs us like that for such a short time in their lives that we would miss the midnight snuggles when they eventually stopped and so haven't pushed any more

We did Lucy Wolfe stay and support and then sort of gradual retreat. I still wait in the room while she falls asleep but at the other side from her bed and I just read a book. She falls asleep within five minutes now. It did take much longer the first few nights but I felt OK about the crying as she wasn't being left to cry, someone was with her and stroking her/talking to her the whole time.