14 month age gap help!

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So today I went to my dating scan as I've found out I'm pregnant and I'm 19w1d no symptoms except feeling a bit nauseous.

I'm due the 23rd of Jan so will be a 14 month age gap

Anyone tips?

Batten down the hatches! Same gap as me. It's not as difficult as you think. I'm in a great position now as they're 15 & 16. They are great friends (usual sibling arguments) If I had to choose again I'd do exactly the same. Gets the baby years all out of the way in one fell swoop! Many congratulations 💐

Thank you

We were planning on trying next year so there would be a 2 year+ age gap.

We are quite young parents with me being 19 and him being almost 18 I'll be 20 by the time baby is born though. And he is still at college

I have 16m age gap , my tips:

Get a sling and practice ! It will save you in the beginning.

Double buggy if you can - can highly recommend the mountain buggy duet double

Take advantage of any help offered including people bring meals round in the beginning

Try and get some baby free time for the 1yo - does your DC go to childminder or have grandparents around ?

When you start going out with both of them - keep it local, simple and up to places where the older one can’t run away. Toddler groups are great as someone will hold the baby for you !

Don’t worry about things that don’t ultimately matter - I’ve had to lower my standards with housework, cooking , going out in crumbled clothes with dry shampoos hair in a bun as I can’t remember when I last washed it! These things don’t really matter . All that matters is everyone being safe and fed and happy.

I have an 11 month age gap (planned, although the second was premature, making the gap a bit smaller).
It is great. Much less hard than I expected once the youngest reached his due date. We never stopped with the sleepless nights or the nappies so it’s easy to just power on through. They are even in the same nappy size now.
The babies adore one another, zero jealousy and from the youngest being about 9 months old they play together.
You do need to work together as a couple though, there are plenty of moments where it’s all hands on deck and at some stages I was doing all the cooking in the evening because I didn’t have any other chance.
If you have helpful family ask them for concrete help like bringing round a casserole.

Yes we have OHs dad and he has son when I'm working and OH is working part time/at college

I think it will be a bit easier at the start because when son was first when son was first born OH wasn't living with me so I was doing it alone. But might be hard with 2 under 2

This is my gap too! The baby years were exhausting, but you just get through it. Accept as much help as you can get.
I agree as a PP said it’s much easier now they’re a bit older (9 and 10) both girls.
Mine are good friends most of the time.
Good Luck!😀

Oh I thought of another thing - I have baby bouncers and changing stations all over the house !

I have a 12 month age gap.

Really hard to begin with but a breeze after the youngest gets to a year old. Similar stages etc.

Mine are now 13 and 14 (almost 14 and 15) and just brilliant. Wouldn't change it for the world.

Good luck and enjoy 😊

It's the age gap of my middle and honestly it was fine (well apart from baby had silent reflux so that was hellish until diagnosed)

My key is routine, and use pick up put down to encourage the baby to feel safe and happy awake in their cot - it doesn't involve letting them cry!

I had a playpen for the baby, I used to feed the baby then put them to sleep in their pram or car seat so we could leave the house easier. In the morning one deals with older one and the other the baby.

Obviously get a double pushchair and a 2nd cot!

i used to feed the baby then put them to sleep in their pram or car seat so we could leave the house easier

I also do this - this is a really good tip makes it so much easier to leave the house

I have a 13 month age gap between my 5 and 6 year old. We also had our third the year after so it was quite intense for a bit

Top tips are to get a good double pram and see if you can get both of them napping for one nap a day at the same time

My age gaps are

1 and 2- 14 months

2 and 3 - 10 months

3 and 4- 2 years

4 and 5- 14 months

Then had a 5 year gap and there is 12 months between 6 and 7, and I am having no more!

So basically I had 5 in 5 years, then a gap then 2 in a year.

You will be fine! It’s lovely as they get older but if you can get help with anything to do with the running of the house then it will make your life easier, I couldnt afford it with my older ones but now I have a cleaner a couple of times a week and someone to walk my dogs Monday to Friday.

Good luck and enjoy your babies

Agree with the cleaner. We have one for 6 hours a week wvhxh is worth it's weight in gold. Try and get someone proactive who will see what needs done and who is happy to tidy away toys. Also someone happy to hold one of the babies for a minute if you need to nip to the loo