Blocked on Facebook

[Bunnylady53]

Is life too short to be upset about this? It’s really not a nice feeling though & sometimes it’s cowardly I think. I’ve been blocked by a Mum of a girl in DD’s class. All I was doing was trying to arrange a play date & I didn’t message enough to be considered a stalker. Why can’t people message back & be honest about how they feel rather than block? Incidentally, we are not friends in real life but were always friendly at school, birthday parties etc. I think she blocked me after I messaged saying that I thought I’d offended her or DD had upset her daughter. I can have a tendency to get a little fixated with people & I am considering counselling for this but as I said, I really don’t think I went over the top

She didn't like in your own words 'cheeky' request for child care and that is why she has blocked you.

It’s hard to say OP because we are only getting a limited one side of the story here.

Try and put it to bed and move on now. I know it’s hard sometimes but it’s for the best.

How do you know she’s blocked you? Could it just be that’s she’s took a break from Facebook?

How do you know she's blocked you and not just deactivated her fb?

The childcare request was back in June but she’s only recently blocked me. The last time she replied to any of my messages was before that. The trouble is, I rarely get to do the school run so don’t get to see other Mums face to face.

Has she repeatedly declined your requests / offers and you've continued pursuing the friendship?

Jane is that you

If she never replied to previous messages and you continued to message her then unfortunately she obviously isn't interested, but she probably could have sent a simple No to the 1st/2nd request and you may have taken the hint then. If she has replied and made excuses not to meet on the 6 occasions you asked, she probably hoped you'd take the hint that she wasn't interested and has now just blocked you to save her making any more feeble excuses. Again, she could have just said No initially but it's not always easy. Time to forget about her now and if you do ask someone else don't be too persistent. If they don't reply or agree after a couple of invites, don't ask again.

No she hasn’t declined as such but just hasn’t answered which is why I began to think I’d offended her

It tells you if someone has deactivated their account

Agree with PP's she's probably just deactivated her account for a while.

I think after 2 invitations being declined I'd have stopped asking and left it up to her to ask the next time.

How do your DC's get along? Is the friendship mutual or more one sided?

I think blocking is a bit extreme, when you're going to be seeing each other in the future, it's quite rude really and I think you're lucky to not have to deal with her anymore (but I'm still
Guessing she's deactivated rather than blocked)

It tells you if someone has deactivated their account

I hadn't had any interaction from a friend on FB for a while so I searched her, she was not there at all, couldn't see her name or anything. (Turns out she'd fallen out with someone on FB and deactivated her account) she reappeared a few weeks later and all her posts were restored.

Gabsalot 😂😂😂 gutted when I saw that thread was deleted! I wanted an update.

OP, what did each of your messages say exactly? Furthermore, what messages did she respond to?

What's the timeline for the correspondence?

Also, are both of your children friends?

Did she reply to any messages? If not then sending half a dozen is very odd, as is asking her for free childcare. You have to learn to take a hint - if people don't reply, it's because they don't want to reply to you!

It tells you if someone has deactivated their account

What tells you?

If someone deactivates their account, they still remain on your friend list but their account is 'unclickable' and their photo is missing.

If the OP can't see this woman on her friend list at all, then she's been blocked.

Ever seen he’s just not that into you? It’s the same with people in general. If they’re not replying it’s because they don’t want to speak to you or be part of your circle.

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The girls are friends & actually when she cane round, they got on brilliantly & I didn’t have to tell them off at all.
I know how busy people are but it doesn’t take long to send a quick message

Came not cane!

Just forget it

I will send someone one message. If I don’t get a response I leave it there.

To send SIX is a lot OP. I’m not surprised she has blocked you.

Some counselling sounds like it could be really helpful for you- good luck!

Yeah I'd block someone who sent me 6 messages in a row that I didn't answer. Sorry OP but that's really full on.