Is it rude?

[BeFire]

Is it rude to say 'no thanks' when someone invites you in when you're only there to drop off their DC?

I invite other parents because it just falls out of my mouth but I don't really mean it or want them to accept.

I got stuck for an hour recently whilst trying to pick DD up.

It's lovely that they offer and I don't want to offend them but I'd really rather just give them their DC and say bye.

I don't think it's rude not to want to go (and quite possibly they don't want you do either but are just being polite!) but are you literally just saying "no thanks"? I can see that might come over as a bit abrupt. You could soften it by saying "oh no thanks, I have to get off/I have a millions things to do" etc.

No absolutely not. Sometimes it’s just not convenient or you can’t be bothered. A big smile and hand over the child is enough.

Sorry it’s when you’re picking up. Same thing applies though, say thank you and that you have to dash!

Oh no I'm far too polite to just say no thanks and walk off .

I normally accept and hover around awkwardly for a bit making excuses to go or make excuses straight away but worry that they think I'm rude not going in.

Doesn't help that DS(4) is ridiculously nosey and desperate to get in other people's houses and DD is always more than happy to have the extra 10 mins with her friend.

They’re probably asking out of politeness too. A quick chat on the doorstep and a thank you is enough. Or if you do go in just make up some reason why you can’t stop long. Don’t overthink it OP. As long as you’re friendly and polite and say thanks for having your DC that’s enough.

Other people are often thinking the same as you are.

It's not rude to not go in, most people are just being polite like you are.

I say something like "oh thanks I'd love to but I best get DC home for a bath/dinner/visiting family" or any and every other excuse possible