Feeling dissatisfied/miserable with my life, but don't know why

[saturdaycoffee]

Any ideas how I can work out what's going on?

In general, my life is really good.

I've got a partner who is great, 2 kids, a permanent job and a fledgling new business venture which is just starting and going ok, just bought a house, no debts, no financial worries.

But I just feel so...meh. I feel unsettled, like I don't want to be anywhere, or wherever I am doesn't feel right. I guess I feel like I should feel happier than I do, but I don't.

The last couple of months have been a bit stressful. We moved house, and had a failed round of IVF. We are due to try again, but I've put that off too because it just doesn't feel right. Nothing feels right. I am divorced from the kids' dad, and they are with him at the moment, and I do feel a bit miserable because of that. I am looking after DP's dog whilst he works away, so there's added responsibility and I feel a bit trapped and unable to do my own thing when I want to because of needing to be around for the dog. Not that I actually do my own thing when I get the chance to, because I feel too meh to do anything. DP is working away again, but only for about a month, so it's not as if it's that long.

I don't know how to snap out of this funk, or even to be able to rationalise it properly.

And on top of feeling dissatisfied, I then feel guilty about feeling dissatisfied, because there is no good reason for feeling this way.

How do I get out of feeling like this?

Sorry I don't have the answer but just wanted to reply and say I often feel the same. I have no reason to feel that way but it's almost like my stupid brain won't allow me to feel happy/content. I will say though that sometimes things can have an effect on you without you realising or even that you are in denial of and don't realise till later (things that cause stress I mean like moving or family issues). I found it helpful to go to counselling for a while just to get my feelings out there. I go whenever things get too much for me and I get really down (been a couple times so far for a couple months at a time). Might not work for everyone but I think it helped me get back on an even keel. Also sometimes just doing something new can help in the short-term (take up a new class, visit a new country etc.) just for a slightly different perspective.

A lot of times I feel like I'm just plodding along and everything feels pointless to me. I find it difficult to feel enthusiastic about anything.

You need to find a new obsession focus.
If you've just moved. Can you not throw yourself into making the house perfect? I felt like this last week but now lost a few lbs and took four bags to charity shop. Felt so much better. Small steps... Try and work out what you want and do something to get towards it.