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Meeting ex husband gf

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Tinydancer08 · 29/08/2019 13:43

So I'm looking for advice.. I'm meeting with my ex husbands girlfriend. She's involved with the kids and there planning on moving in together so i thought it would be a good idea to meet. (is it?) she's calling to my house tomorrow and I really don't no what to say. I wasn't expecting it so soon but as soon as I mentioned my ex arranged it in a few mins.

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Pogmella · 29/08/2019 13:46

Don’t do it at your house! A cafe will be way more chill. Cancel tomorrow and ask for her number so you can arrange it yourselves. Keep it short (have an appt to go to after) and decide what you want out of it.

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Tinydancer08 · 29/08/2019 13:49

She's literally just calling in and can't see her staying long as she will be off her plane and dropping presents in for the children. I don't really want to cancel as I want it done out of the way. As she will be involved with picking up and dropping the children off to me. I just don't know what to say as I've never been in this situation before. But new after we spilt it would happen some dayv

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Raphael34 · 29/08/2019 13:54

Isn’t this what you wanted? They have no obligation to consent to your request. Yet they did immediately and got ex has arranged it as asked. Why do you want to meet her?

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KurriKurri · 29/08/2019 13:55

I would just offer her a coffee, ask her about her holiday, did she have a nice time, where did they go etc. I'd thank her for the kids presents, tell her it's lovely to meet her and you are glad to have the chance and tell her if she ever has any porblems or question about the kids when they are staying at their Dad's don;t hesitate to give you a ring or text.

And that's all really - keep it friendly and pleasant. you don;t have to be this woman's friend but it will be better for everyone if you show you are pleasant and approachable.

Aquamarine1029 · 29/08/2019 13:57

Just act as you would with anyone you meet for the first time. Be polite and take the opportunity to get to know her a little. Chances are she's a nice person, and I think her being so willing to form a relationship with you hints to that. Wouldn't be to everyone's advantage if you can have a cordial/friendly relationship with her? Especially for your childrens' sake.

Clangus00 · 29/08/2019 13:58

That's great advice from Kurikuri

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Tinydancer08 · 29/08/2019 13:59

She also wanted to meet me aswell but I had mentioned it to my ex the other day and he arranged it I think because they are moving in soon and she will be helping out more. I want to be on good terms with her we have zero reasons not to be friends she wasn't the OW. I just think it would be easier for the kids as they've mentioned about us seeing each other also. I think I'm just so nervous as I hate being in uncomfortable environments.

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KurriKurri · 29/08/2019 14:07

Remember she will be just as apprehensive as you - but it sounds as if you both want a friendly relationship, so that is a good start

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Tinydancer08 · 29/08/2019 14:12

@kurriKurri thank you for your advice hopefully it all goes smoothly.

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