I don’t like your face...

[Brittany2019]

DD has just said this and I’m ridiculously hurt. She’s 3.5, but it’s the second time she said it, the last time was a few weeks ago. I laughed it off then, but now I feel like crying.
Someone give me a kick up the bum.

She’s probably just heard that somewhere and is testing it out on you. My DD’s friends say that to each other when they fall out to express displeasure, I don’t think it’s a literal thing. Don’t worry OP

Explain to her that it is not a nice thing to say and how it hurts your feelings. Maybe liken it to another scenario and ask how she would feel if her friends said mean things to her. At 3.5 she is old enough to start to understand about others feelings and what is socially acceptable.

My dd once said when she was about 3/4 “your face is beautiful...just like a Halloween mask” always stuck with me! Now I find it funny.
Kids don’t really understand what these things mean! It doesn’t mean anything, just next time say “that’s not nice”

I did say that it wasn’t a nice thing to say, but she countered with, «but...I like my face».

I do know I’m being absolutely ridiculous, btw, and I’m trying hard to get over myself.

You you’re putting too much store in the opinion of a 3.5 year old. Ignore it, she will thrive on your reaction.

She does though, because you are her mammy. She does like your face. She loves your face.

Just say 'I don't like your words' and leave it there. It's a stage they all go through and nothing unusual at all.

She does like your face. She is just trying (and succeeding) to push your buttons. Ignore ignore ignore. Play and fun game and enjoy her. I agree she is repeating something she has herd most likely.

cantfind "I don't like your words" is a good come back for how young this one is.
OP, like others have said she's 3.5 and testing your boundaries it seems if this isn't the first time. I don't have kids but have numerous nieces and nephews so have been there and it's not nice is it?
I always just said if we have nothing nice to say then we don't say it (I still live by this as an adult), or my youngest niece I sometimes have to say "that's not very kind is it"
My nephew who as a 6 year old was calling me horrible names as a "joke" is now a lovely teenager! So it does pass.
Im sure your face is lovely! I was born with a severe facial deformity (corrected at birth, it's not that noticeable now really) and have had comments all my life. it still hurts, but they are getting less as I get older (in my 30s now)

Ah, thanks everyone. I copped on to myself shortly after posting this and we had a lovely afternoon together.
«I don’t like your words» is a good one if it comes up again in future though.
Thanks again.

My ds (3 years old) randomly told me he didnt like the dress i was wearing. It was the first time i had worn a dress around him...he has said it on more than one occasion since he looks and me and actually points to it. Its just something for them to say...try not to take it to heart.

Aw no, I came on to say the only response to that is to say "and I don't like yours, it's 'orrible!" then clocked the insulter is only 3 so don't do that!
Seriously though, she's 3. She's obviously heard it from somewhere.
They're sponges at that age.
Even if she hasn't, she'll be saying it as you've done something as heinous as cutted her toast up wrong, or done story time in the wrong voice or something.
Easy to say, but just think "whatevs, good job I love you then" and carry on as normal. If she knows she's upset you at that age and gets a negative reaction, from experience the little sods do it all the more.
Deep breath, she loves you really

Oops, just noticed your update @Brittany2019 good good then, glad you had a nice afternoon together

DD is 3.5 too and a few days go asked me if I wanted a smack in the face when I asked her to put her shoes on. I was mortified. After a bit of investigation apparently grandpa says it jokingly and she had no idea what it meant.
Grandpa has had a stern talking to!

OP even though I knew it must have just been parroted from somewhere it made me so upset to hear those words come out of my beautiful girl’s mouth. I know how you feel!

My five year old regularly says my voice annoys him. I have realised it only annoys him when I'm not saying what he wants to hear!

@Pipanchew2 sorry, this did make me laugh. Naughty Grandads. My dad looked after my DS for a few hours while I went shopping and taught my DS to shake his head for yes and nod for no. We had all kinds of communication problems

My 6 year old told me I smelt beautiful..... like crab sticks 😂

At 3 my dd told me I looked beautiful today. I was trying out a face mask. I wouldn’t trust a toddler’s judgement

I wondered if she might be parroting something she’s heard but not understood and trying it out with you where she feels safe. Growing up I’d have heard adults say “wipe that look off your face”. Could “I don’t like your face/ I don’t like the expression on your face” be something she’s heard another parent say?

My dd said exactly the same thing to me around that age.

Today my 4 year old told his grandmother "your voice is annoying my brain" she absolutely pissed herself laughing. Really don't be upset by this, she doesn't hate your face.