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Shoplifting. What would you have done?

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MonroeM · 23/08/2019 22:22

Today I think I observed a shoplifter. I was in one store and I overheard the assistant talking to another one about a female shoplifter who had just escaped being caught. She described her clothing.

This was a very small retail shopping area. I thought no more about it but a bit later was in a discount store nearby just browsing. A woman and her small daughter were looking at the boxed toys (little unicorns and mini games and puzzles) which I noticed as I was also browsing those shelves for grand children's gifts and treats.

The woman was wearing an outfit which could have matched the one I overheard being described earlier in the other store. I told myself not to assume anything but kept an eye on things and saw that the mother had put in her basket half a dozen girl's toys and they were still looking at more. I moved on to another aisle.

They came to my aisle and those toys were no longer in the basket. The woman had a handbag and a larger open shopping bag on her arm. The daughter then chose some pens and notebook stuff and gave it to her mother.

I made sure I was behind them when moving to the checkout and peeped into her shopping bag while pretending to look at something else. I couId see things in there. I know I know this may sound all very stupid or weird but this woman only paid for some fruit juice and balloons.

She could have changed her mind about all the toys and dumped them somewhere but I doubt it.

I have watched shoplifters before ages ago (2 young women who were DEFINITELY stealing) and told the staff who did not seem to be too concerned!! but what do others here think? Would you have told shop staff or just ignored it?

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HennyPennyHorror · 23/08/2019 22:33

Why are you acting like some unpaid security guard? Confused your behaviour is quite odd you know. It's neither your business nor your concern to follow strangers around and look inside their bags.

You ought to think about this and stop it. You might get in bother one day. As for the fact that you chose to tail this woman because she had an outfit on which you'd overheard described by an assistant...nope, nope, nope!

Mammajay · 23/08/2019 22:35

I always tell the staff. Sometimes they are not interested.

wotsittoyou · 23/08/2019 22:42

You behaved completely inappropriately. How dare you follow this woman around and peer into her bag!

SavoyCabbage · 23/08/2019 22:49

You kept an eye on the situation and made sure you were behind them at the checkout!

Mistlewoeandwhine · 23/08/2019 23:07

I wouldn’t have given a shit.

LemonPrism · 23/08/2019 23:16

It's not my business.

DC90 · 23/08/2019 23:18

Think you might need a hobby OP...

KatherineJaneway · 23/08/2019 23:19

I always tell. Worked in retail for years so hated thieves.

TigerDroveAgain · 23/08/2019 23:19

Beak. Out.

EmmiJay · 23/08/2019 23:20

I once saw a man fill his entire rucksack with goods and didn't even bat an eyelid. He looked like he needed a good meal so I kept my snout out.

Stefoscope · 23/08/2019 23:56

I'd mention it to the shop staff, whether or not they follow up on it is up to them. Even if you are of the mind set that the shop can afford to absorb the cost, the woman was setting a shitty and criminal example for her daughter. Takes a village and all that.

PickwickThePlockingDodo · 24/08/2019 00:00

I'd have done exactly the same as you, OP but I would've told the staff, how dare she get away with it? 😡

Kummerspeck · 24/08/2019 00:01

Just what @Stefoscope said. Keeping your beak out as others have suggested costs all of us more and does not bode well for her daughter

Waiting1987 · 24/08/2019 00:02

Shock What normal person creeps around spying on strangers in shops?? What exactly did you hope to achieve?

Coffeeandchocolate9 · 24/08/2019 00:02

I would tell the staff.

Doyoureallyneedtoask · 24/08/2019 00:22

If I had seen her actually putting something into her bag, then I may have wondered whether or not to tell someone. But you didn't actually see her taking anything OP so how on earth could you approach security and tell them that you thought she was stealing?

Thinking about it, I probably wouldn't tell anyone, shops pay security to stop shoplifting and I would assume the shoplifters circumstances were incredibly hard. Part of me would be scared to report it too as I'd wonder too if the shop staff might be in on it/know her and tell her I had reported her!

Catmar · 24/08/2019 08:25

It's not your business, why would you get involved. DP worked in retail for a while, shop staff are usually aware who the shoplifters are.

NottonightJosepheen · 24/08/2019 08:41

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 24/08/2019 08:46

Can’t believe all the people saying the OP is odd, that these things happen all the time so just ignore, or that it’s none of her business! OP had already said that she overheard 2 assistants talking in the previous shop saying the woman had got away with stealing stuff, so clearly it WAS an issue in that shop. And Op didn’t then folllow her out of the shop, like some making out. She overheard the description then when in the next shop noticed someone that matched the description of the thief from the previous shop. OP then moved to another aisle

She was hardly following her round the shop. It sounds like OP finished browsing at the same time as the woman was moving to the checkout so decided she may as well observe what would happen there.

Some sections of society DO think they can just get away with taking whatever they want from shops. It doesn’t exactly sound like this was someone in desperate need who was stealing food otherwise they’d starve. A load of children’s toys? If it was someone who was in dire straits and just wanted a toy for their child because they otherwise had none then they would just take one, surely? Not loads of different items, that’s just greed!

Why would you NOT inform staff what you had heard in the others shop and voice your suspicions about her? Even if they didn’t have time to approach her in there they at least could radio security from somewhere to get her followed from the shop.

Personally, if it was basic food which was clearly just going to someone who looked hungry and desperate I think I might have turned a blind eye. In this case, it does sound like it was just scummy behaviour by someone who thought they could get away with not paying. I think that type of thing should always be reported.

lostfrequencies · 24/08/2019 08:48

Totally agree with you curly. Sometimes the replies on this site are bloody bonkers.

EleanorReally · 24/08/2019 08:50

i was behind a shop lifted in Next,
put it in her bag!

i did nothing but i havent forgotten aobut it

RezCowgirl · 24/08/2019 08:50

Couldn't care less

CurlyhairedAssassin · 24/08/2019 09:00

Saying that, I just had a re-read to check your wording. Exactly how did the woman’s outfit match the description? “Blue top and jeans” or “dark red skirt, black flip flops and a T shirt a with a heart on”???

You say the woman HAD put some toy items in the shopping basket, not that you witnessed her putting them in. At the checkout you say that there were “things” in her own bag. Were these the same items you’d seen in the shopping basket? It’s possible from the wording you use that this could just be a genuine shopper whose daughter had put toys in the shopping basket when the mother wasn’t looking, the mother had taken them out saying “no we didn’t come in for toys.” She could have done the same with the pen and notebook (Cos they aren’t toys, to her mind) and the woman has done the same, said no, and put them back.

Could the “things” you had seen in her shopping bag at the till have just been items she had bought from other shops, if she was a genuine shopper and not the thief from the other shop?

I mean, I just don’t think anyone can really say because we weren’t there.

slipperywhensparticus · 24/08/2019 09:07

I saw the worlds worst shoplifters and told the checkout lady she reported it to the security guards who waited outside the shop for them I have also witnessed people selling meat in the hairdressers freshly stolen from the supermarket one pub in our town is known for people selling stolen food for some unknown reason manuka honey is stole and sold a lot they are pushing the Holland and barrett out of buisness this is known to the police but they do nothing about it

slipperywhensparticus · 24/08/2019 09:08

I swear I had paragraphs....