Would you make your 12 year old replace this

[whereisthebloodylunchbox]

My 12 yr old DS has for the 4th time in the last 18 months left his lunch box at school and it's gone. They are labelled but never return. I realised this morning when I went to get it and he said 'oh yeah I looked for it but it wasn't there'.

I'm really annoyed at having to replace it again and his blasé attitude. It's just like 'oh well, no big deal'. And maybe it isn't in the scheme of things but it's still wasted money that Im not made of!

Would you make him replace it out of his own money or is it just one of those school things? I thought by age 12 he'd be more responsible with his belongings.

So as not to drip feed he has ADD and I know organisation isn't his strong point. I do feel though that if it was a comic or something he cared about he'd have paid more attention.

I would say he can either replace it or take his food in a paper bag so that he doesn't have to remember to bring the box home. Leave the choice up to him.

No I wouldn’t waste money replacing it as it will only get lost again. I’d send him with lunch in a carrier bag.

If he's got ADD it's a bit mean to ask him to replace it. Can you just get some really cheap lunchboxes or use the plastic boxes that takeaway come in?

It is very early I'm the year to loose a lunchbox already so I would be inclined to tell him he will need to replace it with his own money or take a plastic bag. It is important for him to understand that he needs to look after his belongings and even with ADD he needs to find ways to be responsible for them as It may be a phone or wallet he loses next.

If he's lost 4 in a year and a half, make him replace it. Even if organisation isn't his strong point, he might take more care of them if you're not the one replacing them.

I'm inclined to make him replace it though I feel mean doing it!
The school has a ban on single use items like plastic bags so there aren't a lot of alternatives.

He needs to know that it isnt the biggest deal in the whole world, but it's wasteful and he's not being responsible. He should check before leaving that he's got his things. Absolutely he should replace it. I have ADHD. That's why it's so important that being responsible for my stuff was drilled in to me.

And paper bags in the mean time if possible, or just straight in the bag wrapped up (can get reusable beeswax wraps for sandwiches... just saying.)

can get reusable beeswax wraps for sandwiches... just sayin. But he's probably lose those too

He would totally lose them 😂

paper bag absolutely or he can scavenge one from school lost and found.

You need to check what the “lunch box culture” is before you decide. Ds lost a lot of lunchboxes before we talked about it and he finally told me that “nobody” had a lunchbox. No idea whether that was true or not- but he had a carrier bag from then on and was happy with that.