I hate dreams

[Chocrichtea]

Been single almost 3 years. Last relationship was abusive resulting me in being in a women's refuge. Dated men since then all have been players/abusive traits.grew up in a dysfunctional family and feeling pretty lonely atm.

So last night I had an amazing dream. I was with a man and I felt safe and secure and on top on the world. It was such a vivid dream and felt so real. Then I wake up and realise it's not true and I'm alone and feel hopeless that I'll never feel that way in RL. I know I'm love by DS but that's different I just want someone to be my one.
No point to this thread just feeling pretty rubbish.
Anyone want to throw some cheerful stories at me about finding someone when you didn't think you would? Might give me some hope

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Your dream showed you what it was like and how it feels to have a properly loving partner. Remember that feeling OP, let it be your guide in future relationships.

I know just want that in RL. So any happy stories?

Hi,

Sorry you've been through so much shit - to then have such a lovely dream and wake up to realise reality is starkly different must be horrible. I don't have any advise as I'm stuck in an emotionally abusive marriage and I never really had much experience when it came to men/relationships anyway! But I am a firm believer in fate & a bigger purpose - so I hope for you that this is a sign that you know the watch outs now and the perfect partner is just around the corner so to speak.

Good luck!

@namechangedasscared leave that idiot! I'm not going to lie it was the best thing I did leaving my abusive ex. But obviously does have a down side being alone. But I would rather that then anymore abusive. That's why my dream hurt because I just want that 1 nice guy. I certainly do not want an abusive arse!

Oh I’ve been trying for a while - it’s complicated and difficult. I’d much, much rather be on my own with the kids than with him! But we are broke and he’s threatened to push for 50/50 custody - which the kids would hate - to try to prevent me from getting the house/big share of the house etc. He refused to leave our house - but I know he couldn’t afford to keep paying the bills on his own, so I’d have to keep paying into the mortgage so as not to lose the house meaning I couldn’t afford to rent/buy elsewhere. He refused to sign paperwork to let me put the house on the market claiming he felt it was worth a lot more than I had had 2 valuations confirming. That meant I missed out on the house I had found that would have been perfect.

I will leave one day - but for now I’m keeping my kids with me so they don’t get dragged into the middle by him just to control me further, or to punish them in lieu of me.