Sometimes it really is a good thing to hold back what you want to say isn't it..

[Goldensummer]

Because in years to come you will cringe!

This morning I was looking for an A4 piece of paper to write on and I found a writing pad in a drawer.

As I turned the page I found a letter I had written to my dp's ex wife a couple of years ago (which I never sent.) I couldn't even finish reading it because it was so cringeworthy!

I've been with my dp for 3 years so we would have been together for around a year when I wrote it. At the time dp was getting a lot of trouble from his ex wife with regards to their son and for some reason I felt it was my business to poke my beak in. Luckily I wrote the letter, read it to dp who said do not send it to her (i wanted to ) so I left it in the writing pad and forgot about it.

Now with hindsight I'm glad I've never gotten involved with his ex in any way (never met or spoken to her) because as time has gone on I've cared less and less and just let them get on with their business with their son.

So in this case saying what I wanted at the time without really thinking would have made things worse and it's really made me think now it's definitely better to take a step back and think about what you are saying and question your own role in a situation to conclude whether or not it is really necessary. Fine to write things down but definitely throw it away and never send it!

Have you ever come across anything you wrote down and cringe at it?

I agree. People generally don't appreciate being told what someone else sees as "the truth" about them. And the person telling will have their own bias too so it probably isn't "the truth".
Most people on the receiving end will twist it around in their mind to discount anything said and make it negative about the other.

I agree and that is why I used to keep a journal. Now I just email myself a lot random thoughts. I laugh at some of the ideas I have had throughout the years. Well, I threw a lot of my journals away I only got the emails I sent to my old email address. Which is used to house lot of thoughts I have had over the years. I was so naive and clueless a lot of the time.

Yes, most of the time I think I'm being clever and thoughtful when actually when I look back was being quite naive and clueless.

Well done for not sending it! I found an email I wrote to a friend a few years ago and when I re-read it I was SO SO SO grateful I didn't send it. It was cruel if I'm honest and written in the heat of the moment.

Yes, I've learnt never send anything in the heat of the moment!