Anyone recovered from falling out with friends on holiday?

[Bluddyhateful]

Came back from holiday on Sunday night. Normally have a lovey stay in Wales with friends we’ve known for years and our four dds( 2 each) who get on like a house on fire. This time it rained, the kids argued, and the adults fell out. It’s two days later and I’m still devastated. Can we recover the friendship or is it over forever?
(Nced as other mum is a mnetter)

We fell out with friends on holiday about 15 years ago. A whole big group of us plus kids. We fell out with the Queen Bee and King Dickhead who had organised it.

Have hardly spoken to any of them since.

Surely it depends what you fell out about?

Someone not doing the washing up - easily recoverable with a bottle of wine and an apology.

If you said their kids were horrible little brats maybe not so much!

Ouuuuhhh tell me more about queen bee and king dickhead!!!

Oh after too long in one house we usually get on each other’s wicks. If it’s just a spat then arrange to see them like normal and just breeze past it.

If it’s a bigger deal than that - what was it?

They said we were bad parents. We said their kids were annoying. They still owe us £300. There’s no way back is there?

We’ve all known each other for 20 odd years.

Why do they owe you money?

Hmm, tough one. Might have to ask if you can talk it through with them. How did the comment about the kids even come up?

The thing is I’m still angry with them but I’m also sad that the friendship is over. We have different parenting styles, and they let their kids run wild while we are more hands on (also my youngest is only 4 so we have to be) so by default we end up looking after their kids too then the parents complain when we don’t do the kinds of activities they want their kids to do, but we’re not looking after your kids! We’re on holiday with our own!

Why did they say you were bad parents?

And NC won’t work if the mum is on here.

Sorry, that didn’t make much sense! Basically, it boils down to bedtime and screentime. Theirs don’t have any screen time, ours have half an hour of tv before bed. They said we were bad parents for letting our kids watch screens and that it was a bad influence on their kids. We said their kids needed more adult attention but not from us. Other mum stormed off and left us with all four kids for the afternoon, then came back, took hers away, and didn’t speak to us until the next day when I apologised. Then it was the last day, we had an ok time but frosty goodbyes and nothing since.

I bought all the groceries while we were away. Normally we sort it out on the last
Day but things were too fragile.

Oh no! Sorry to hear this op. IMO if they offer the £300 they are decent people and you can work it out. If they choose to stiff you on the basis you fell out, it's over.

When we shared accommodation with friends I found the pressure to be massive. Constantly cleaning as the other wife was, husband had to get up at 7:00am as the other family did, watching what the children ate to make sure it was always equal.

I can see how things escalated for you at the holiday as you seem so different. Hope it works out for you.